Thread: Monster In-Law is back!

Oh your soon to be mother-in-law sounds JUST LIKE my mother-in-law!! This may be long but I know what you are going through, I have delt with the same **** for 3 years now....

I am sorry to say but if she is anything like mine....it only gets worse. I got a size small pj's for xmas and I am a size 12 so if you want to trade just let me know!! I know exactly how you feel. I feel so bad for my husband when drama hits cause he is stuck right in the middle. One thing I have learned though and I will share this with you and please take it....Don't ever make him decide between you and his mom...he will only end up mad at you and it could ruin your relationship with your soon to be husband. I know this cause I told my husband (out of anger) that either he was going to make her happy or he was going to make me happy. His reply was why can't I just make both of you happy? So I told him that she would not be happy till we got a divorce and if he wanted to make her happy then we could just end it before we had kids. A couple of weeks later we were filling out the papers!! The next day when we were going to go sign them he changed his mind and we tried counseling....WE WEREN'T THE ONES WHO NEEDED THE COUNSELING.....IT WAS HER!!! But anyway...just don't make him choose. He sounds like he knows she is crazy and wants it ALL to be about her, so that is good. He will get to where if she cannot be good to you then he won't be good to her. GIRL....I HAVE LEARNED THAT IF THE IN-LAWS WANT SOME RESPECT THEN THEY NEED TO GIVE RESPECT TOO....SO TREAT OTHERS AS THEY TREAT YOU. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and have a 7 month old son, plus two packets of divorce papers filled out but never signed. After we had our son I told my husband the only way out now was if we killed each other....that hasn't happend yet!! We moved 200 miles away from his family so we could work on our marriage. When you get married you will find that if you love that person enough that they are worth fighting for than you will do everything in your power to keep you two together and your husband will learn that too, it just takes guys longer to realize what they need to do. One more thing I want to tell you though....DO NOT HAVE ANY KIDS TILL YOU KNOW THAT IT IS GOING TO WORK OUT BETWEEN YOU ALL. I know that you are marrying your man and not his family but some people just think that if you marry their son then you are marrying them too. It is so much harder when you have a kid. Let me know if I can be of anymore help....

well we might just be related.LOL.
They are out there.
My mother in law is a pain in the bum,the thing that come on of her mouth just shock me for a grown women to act this way, my one will come in the house and say how you have put on weight, starts going throw our mail.
Tell's me my son acts badly because l feed him frozen food and it should be organic.
has to know what we buy and then gives us 50 question about it.
tells us what we should be eating.
mind you I am going to be 22 and my partner is going to be 26. She bring her dog over and it is so old it half blind and has trouble walking and tell my son off about leaving her dog alone when all he wants to do is play with it.
my son it 2 half.
then why bring the dog in the first place if she know that my son is like that with the dog.
My partner said that she is like this because she has no other family in Austraila and that they are all oversea and he is the only child.
So he feels sorry for her and l have to put up with it.

I completely understand what you're going through! I've been going through the same thing for the last 5 years. My DH was also told that he should ALWAYS choose his family first... the family doesn't include me. He's constantly told that they are the only family he has..... hello.... he has my family now too and mine treats him MUCH better than his own does! I've just never been good enough for her son. I've tried very hard to show her that I am wonderful for him but I've learned that it doesn't matter. The only thing that will ever change her mind is if he puts his foot down and tells her how it is... that he loves you and she needs to back off and let him be a man on his own. You need to stay out of it and let him handle it. If he, like mine, insists on sugar coating things then he'll have to deal with her, not you. I only made one request of my husband... do not allow anyone, family or not, to ever put me down. I don't care who it is, I'm his wife and he is to stand up for me no matter what. Things work much better when I keep my mouth shut and let him handle it. When my MIL saw that he wasn't going to take her side with putting me down, she backed off. I'm sure the bashing still goes on behind my back but I know where I stand. In laws can be the worst, especially when their precious sons have found a woman to love and don't need mommy anymore.... just give it time and gently coach him on how you feel. Don't make him choose, just gently remind him that he is with you now.