let me just start by saying that i love my sister. now...

she is going to have her second child soon, a month or so... with her boyfriend who is not the father of her first child. it was unplanned if you can imagine. now, my mom is throwing her another baby shower?! i'm pretty sure ettiquete says you only get a shower with your first one. am i wrong? i want the best for her, but you don't get a party every time you get knocked up, right?

these feelings are amplified by the fact that my mom did not plan my bridal shower. hubby's aunt planned it for me so i would have a nice shower. so why can my mom plan two baby showers but not one bridal shower? ugh!

so i am going this weekend. i don't want to go. i don't want to get a present. i don't even know what to say... congratulations?

like i said, i love my sister. just not some of this other stuff.

what would you do?

I can totally understand why you feel this way but IMO i feel like every baby deserves a baby shower no matter if its the first second or third etc.Even though the pregnancy maybe unplanned. Your mom is the one who you seem mad at for not planning your bridal shower not your sister. I think you should get her a present no matter what the situation is with her, its your sister and you did say that you love her.

I guess you are right. it is more about my mom than her. all i can do is support her and be there for my soon to be nephew.

just irked me, ya know? oh well. at least its off my chest

Yes i know. I would feel the same way if i was in your position. Im glad its off your chest.

I hear ya...a friend of mine just a shower for her 4th kid. Along with the invitation was a list of stuff that they "needed" for the baby. Are you kidding me? Do you really need stuff when it's the 4th kid? Needless to say I didn't go to the shower. I believe in celebrating the baby, just don't think they need to be showered with gifts the old fashion way.

I'll send flowers when the baby is born.