Thread: I love my mother in law

Okay, I'm glad to find out that my mother in law isn't the only cooky one out there. I got married at 19, and yes, I was pregnant. So that didn't start our relationship out so well. But 8 years and 3 grandkids later, you'd think she would finally accept that I LOVE my husband, and his frist responsibility now is his family.(ie: me, the kids) But no, nothing I do will ever measure up to her perfect standards. Not my cleaning, cooking, or even my driving. I swear, she has something to say about everything. The lady has tried to put me on a diet, because according to her, she got back down to 118lbs. after each of her 5 natural childbirths. (I had 3 c-sections, not by choice) I'm not even overweight, but loosing a few pounds wouldn't hurt. Just not by her ways. She even went as far as to tell my husband that we shouldn't have anymore kids. Why? Because now her daughters are having babies, and we can totally see how much more she is devoted to them then our kids. That kinda hurts. Honestly, I feel like getting knocked up right now just to spite her! But I guess the thing I've learned over the passed 8 years is that no, I will never be good enough in her eyes. But in my eyes, I am a good wife, friend, and I try my best to be the best mom my kids could have. So I can be proud of that and stop trying to measure up to the standards that she has. Most of the time I can just laugh off her crazy stuff, but sometimes it still gets to me.

Thanks for the words of wisdom. You're right, I should just ignore the junk that comes out of her mouth. I think the thing that bothers me most is that she's sweet as pie when my husband is around, but when he's gone--all bets are off. My problem is that I try soooo hard to please her because I never really had a mother. And from the outside looking in, her family was perfect. But that is far from the truth. They are just good at covering things up. Amazingly, my husband managed to escape unharmed with no deep seeded problems, and now we have a pretty normal life. I'm thankful for that.