Hi all,
I am from PA and new to the board...My fiance (C) and I have been together for 3 years 4 months and we've gone thru alot... this is the course of events in numerical order to make it more understandable...

1. C's mom meets guy online, moves to Arkansas to be with him
2. C's sister, her boyfriend, her 11 year old son move to AR to be closer to C's mother- C and I rent his sister's house when she moves to AR, we pay mortgage and ALL maintenance bills...
3. C and I have problems and he feels to fix them, our only option is to move to AR also...
4. I say no and we don't move...
5. We visit AR and C's mom gets married to the guy she met online
6. C's sister is prego and has baby...
7. C's sister and fam has issues w/ the mom's new husband
8. C's sister wants to move back to PA (they've only been gone 8 months)
9. C's sister, her boyfriend, her son and the new baby move back to PA 2 days ago...
10. They have no jobs lined up, they are staying w/the boyfriends mom until C and I can find some place else to live, then they will move back into the house...
11. C's sister is being kind in giving us plenty of time to find something and move...said to take our time...
12. C's sister asked that we basically KEEP her son at our house so he can go back to his old school and stay in the same district...So...we have to basically raise him, help him w/ school work, get him up, on the bus, off the bus...and pretty much wait until SHE is ready to come pick him up on the weekends. This boy who is 11 and too big for his britches, treats me like I'm his sister...he does not look to me as authority and has treated his own mom like this forever. He is horrible in school and needs a good *** kickin'.
13... I would not mind, however, but the boys mom does not put any effort into raising him herself and I feel is unloading him on us now that she is back in PA...her mom is not here now to keep the kids...she is still back in AR. SO, there's a baby now too...and I was told that the baby will probably be with us most of the time too...my fiance doesn't seem to think it's much of an issue...(of course it isn't cus it's HIS fam!)...we clash on how our families act...he says mine are too introverted, where as his family likes hanging out and doing things together, and doing THINGS for each other...He says my fam members only get together on holidays and that even then, we are being "fake", that we are only pretending to get along...we WANT to get along but we all have our own lives to upkeep. We take care of ourselves and do things on our own before we ask for help from one another...my fiance was living w/ his mom, and sister when I met him. They have always catered to one another and I think it's only cus they need the financial support not the loving support...sure they love each other very much and would bend over backwards to help each other out but they take advantage of each other and the love it TOO BLIND to see it. His sister has never stood on her own 2 feet w/o her mom and same goes for my fiance. They are all very lazy and if they don't like their jobs, they just quit on a dime and file unemployment. As long as they have someone to fall back on, they don't give a rats ***. SO...now that my fiance's sis is back with her boyfriend, son, and new baby, she is looking to unload her kids of on us...I hate it. SHOULD I BE OBLIGATED TO HOUSE HER SON JUST BECAUSE WE ARE RENTING HER HOME? SHE WILL BE LIVING ONLY 30 MINUTES FROM HIS SCHOOL...AND WON'T BE WORKING! SEEMS TO ME SHE IS YET AGAIN, JUST GETTING HIM OUT OF HER HAIR! KEEP IN MIND THAT I AM ONLY 24 AND HAVE A 7 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT I HAVE RAISED ALONE AND SHE IS 2ND IN RANK IN HER CLASS...EVERY OTHER WEEKEND SHE GOES WITH HER DADS FAM AND THAT IS MY "FREE TIME"...BUT I CHOOSE TO WORK A SECOND JOB WHEN SHE IS THERE FRI AND SAT NIGHTS SO I CAN MAKE EXTRA $. AND HERE IS MY FIANCE'S SIS, NO JOB, AND BOMBARDING ME WITH HER KIDS...HOW WOULD YOU ALL REACT TO THIS? I AM THE ONLY ONE ALSO, WHO IS MAKING AN EFFORT TO FIND SOME PLACE ELSE TO LIVE...I WANT TO GET OUT ASAP SO SHE CAN MOVE BACK INTO HER FREAKIN' HOUSE! ONLY SO I WON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH HER SON AND THE BABY!

Hi Elektra.

You shouldn't be obligated to take care of your fiance's sister's son if she is capable of raising him. You've been paying the mortgage, but for your peace of mind, and the well-being of your daughter, let her have her house and move out on your own and leave "C" with his family, since he seems to have no interest in moving. Also, you said:

"They are all very lazy and if they don't like their jobs, they just quit on a dime and file unemployment. As long as they have someone to fall back on, they don't give a rats ***" .

Remember all of this if you ever walk down the aisle with "C", because what you are seeing now is what you will get if you marry him. And it won't matter where you live.

Move out!
But don't take it out on the child in the meantime ... put yourself in his shoes. It's not his fault that his mother is lazy. He's probably suffered for it.
But try to get her to pay you some "babysitting" kind of money. You're doing work for free, and that's just what they want!
Like alibaby said, you need to rethink your relationship with your fiancé. He appears to be on their side, and though everyone seems to be in a tough spot, he should be backing you up. Think it out, talk it out, and do what you have to do to be happy with your life.

Thank you both SOOOO much...that's the advice I've been getting from friends and it's obvious I'm not overreacting...about asking for $...neither my sis inlaw nor her boyfriend have jobs right now since they just moved back to PA...so even if we would move, they couldn't move back in right away anyway...they won't be able to pay the mortgage! HA! They're living with the boyfriends mother, along w/the 4 month old baby...for free. I know we need to get out, a relative of mine has a rental house that is perfect but she keeps procrastinating and won't give me the go ahead to go in and fix it up and start living in it! And I can't do it alone...I don't make enough to afford rent these days, and I make too much to get ANY sort of assistance. I'm kinda stuck at the moment...but I do know that tonight is the first night of having the nephew...Wish me luck....

You probably shouldn't rent from a relative, or even a friend ... it's akin to borrowing money from them. Haven't you seen those TV Court shows?
Check the classifieds. If things get worse, tell them you can't afford the mortgage anymore (even if you can) to force them to get up and do things. If it's their name on it, they'll only mess themselves up. Give them notice that you're moving out; do everything completely formally, and get proof. You never know what could happen.

Are you sure you want to marry this family?!