My fiances sister has gone too far. She is pregnant and I am not sure I should blame it on that even though I am fully aware that all her blood is going to the uterus and not her brain.

In August, she cornered me and told me that she did not like me, never had (known her for 2 years) and that she thinks that I'm rude and not right for her brother. She chewed me for over a hour and finished up with the reason her Mom doesn't call me anymore like she used to is because she's keeping her from talking to me because she(herself) doesn't like me.

This upset me and I talked to my fiance about it and he talked to her because it made him mad. He's always been her little pet. He did not talk until 3 because she said everything for him. I met him when he was away in the Navy and we moved to his home town when he got out. So after he talked to her, she told him... whatever made him happy. And the whole subject was dropped. however I was still a bit leary.

On Thanksgiving, we went to her house along with the rest of her family and I thought we had a good time and everything went well. However, she called me at work the next week to tell me she had to get something off her chest. She told me I was rude and she could not believe she served me Thanksgiving dinner. She said she could not believe I was not excited that she found out she was going to have a boy. (We had a 45 minute conversation about the boy, names, furniture, themes...ect.) She asked if I was jealous because I did not have kids and if I was infertile? because if I was infertile then she would understand.

I tried so hard that day to not say anything "wrong" I did not give any opinions, and just talked with her allowing her to "shine" like she likes to do. Then she started saying that I said things that I never said. She has done this about alot of things. I am heartbroke because I have no family here, and I was so excited becaue I love his mom, and I thougth that me and her got along great... Until she told me she hated me for 2 years.

i talked to my pastor and she said that sometimes sisters feel threatened and get mad/jealous and that it will pass. However it is hard to think that this will pass after all the mean things she has said to me and about me that were not true.

Now her mother is calling my fiance telling him that he needs to fix this somehow whatever he has to do. he refuses to appologize for not talking to his sister and wants her to appologize to me before he makes a move. His mother said that she doesn't think his sister needs to appologize, which tells me she is belieivng her lies about me. I am not sure how to exist in this family. He is refusing to go to family functions (not that I want to go either) but I know that they are thinking I am keeping him from them, and I'm not. He's a big man, and makes his own choices.

first off i am sorry that you are having a hard time with your fiancees family....

what makes her say tha you are rude???....
it is good to hear that your fiancee tried to talk to his sister and that he is on your side

but i think the best thing to di is to have all 4 of you (you, your fiancee, his sister & his mother) in one room or some place to talk about what they dislike about you or what really the problem is.... get this sorted out before you tie the knot.. you really do not want to live like this forever...

GOODLUCK

First of all, i am so happy your fiance is standing up for you. His Mother and sister needs to realize he chose you and they need to respect that. They think that you are stealing him away from them and his attention is on you now and they cannot accept that. Alot of mothers and sisters are like this when it comes to there son and brothers. I agree that your fiance needs to sit down with them as well as you and have a talk. He must be firm with them and let them know that they need to respect you. Goodluck, keep us updated.