I am getting sick n tired that it seems there is no love towards his family but its hatred. it all started when we getting engaged and he brought my ring home along with his too. His mom saw it and was like soo engrossed that she wanted it. He reluctant to give but her reason :- advance bday gift. Her bday is like 2 months away when mine is only a month... Believe it! we bought a couple ring n hv to give up 1 to her. End up we spend again to buy another 1. I find it a waste n worse we are not paired up anymore. His sis is another ***. She was like interfering sayin tat its no big prob to buy a new one. I was ****ed off n told him tat y not ask his sis to give his mom 1 of her own jewerlery...
Near to the wedding, we bought a bigger SUV. Got it for my bday. His family seein tat, start to take advantages by askin to send her there. do this tat. Please la.. Im not critising them.. Though they are not that well off from my side who everyone owes 1, but the should do tat. His mom, everywhere call. Pls take note he has 6 elder bro n 1 sis. She can call e other kids but she jus wana take advantage.
The sis, she has her own husband to rely. Instead to get us to send her here n there, take things. We were****ed off. Fuel consumption.. I told e sis to get a small car for her own n reason is - so x esp petrol. Wat abt us?? We aint using water!:*((
The wedding was held in 2 different culture as im a mix. SO we had one in the hotel n the other at a history palace. My parents sponsored 15k as a gift. Therefore, as a respect the money n gifts i get, i jus pushed to my parents for blessing. His mom was like, wat u gona do wit e moeny u get??? Send me to honeymoon at australia??!!! IT sucks.. I need to pay the balance, give my parents n for our own honeymoon.
Worst, their side didnt even fork out anythin but request for this n tat. Eg: to hv more cards for their own frens!!::%^&
Now, weekly have to go there, smile, show my face n entertain their needs. Whenever we come, they bound to hv somethin to ask us to send somethin or go somewhere. Worst we always hv to buy food, tidbit everytime..for the parent, sis n her own husband toO!!! When he himslf can buy but reason tight::^&(
The car, its mine. They will take advantage to ask to lend here n there. ( Which i have not lend till now cos its drivin out of country)
Help! The hatred is getting more n worse
I jus hate it when:
others step on us for cash like banks
use us like chaffeurs ( petrol like water)
use us for glamorous
thinkin tat we do not hv other responsible to pay n settle

Its no use to ask me to talk to whoever. Rather than i think of wat to talk to them n handle, i might as well think of a way to save myslf..
Pls help>>

unfortunately when you marry, you inherit his family as well. Here's the trick dont be so available for their requests, and distance yourself from them... they will get the hint eventually, your not made of money and your not a bank, and its crucial that the first year of your marraige you focus on being a couple(u r newlyweds) is your husband not bothered by his very needy family? what does he say about the situation? After all he is not an only child.

speaking from experience as my husband is 1 of 14 kids and yes, i too was very overwhelmed with birthdays and get togethers, alot of money spent, but also relaized i must focus on my family( i also have my own responsibilties to think about) so i became less available
My husband still sends his mom money when she calls and needs it-though not 2 often does she call. we get together with family on holidays and when they are in town.

In my opinion a man marries to have his own family, to be the dominent provider for his wife and kids, and a daughter when she marries will always share a personal relationship with her mother and when she becomes a mom her her focus is for her children.

thks stepmom.. ill c to wat i can do n try heeding this advise. sounds rational n meaningful..) expreience really teaches us!