Hi my name is Amanda and I am seriously struggling with a few issues in my life right now. First of all, for the past almost a year now I haven't spoken to my brother. Him and his now wife and I got into a heated argument and from that point on I havent spoken to him. I am wondering if I should salvage that relationship. My mother has expressed to me that she would like us too but I am not so sure. My brother and I didnt really have a relationship before this anyways so I dont see why it would matter either way. We would talk at family gatherings but other than that there was nothing much to it.

Second issue, is my husband's Mom, Dad and sister...... My husband has a child from a previous relationship as do I but I have 2 and we have a child together as well. Well my husbands daughter lives in Indiana with her mother and we get her for the summers. During the year we never get phone calls from my husbands family but as soon as my husbands daughter comes in to town the phone is ringing off the hook. When we used to visit or when we would send the kids down to his mom's house to spend some time with her. My kids would always come back saying that Alexus (my husbands daughter) always got to do what she wanted etc etc etc. There is very obvious favoritism. Even the child that me and my husband have together she treats him the same way she treats my other 2 children. So with that being said I havent had a relationship with her or had my kids speak/have a relationship with her either. Maybe I am wrong but my opinion is I as a mother was blessed with 3 beautiful children and I am supposed to protect them. Some things I have no control over..... but this I do. And my husband tells me this is important to him but I am looking past that and watching out for the best interest of my babies. He tells me to trust him but in my opinion if I had trusted him none of this would have happened to begin with.


In case you are wondering the issue I have with his sister is pretty much the same. I am military and there was this one time I went to Texas and my husband came with me so we asked his sister if she would watch the kids. We drove to Texas, and by the time we got to Louisiana we got a phone call from a close friend saying the cops were at our house. Apparently my daughter... being 8 at the time with my 6 yr old son and my 1 yr old baby went to the park un supervised. The park wasn't in our backyard either. It was a good 5 min walk. Thankfully there was an adult at the playground that called the cops; otherwise I dont know what would have happened. I was livid. Then I get back and I was cleaning my house and I came across a letter that was written to my husband from her about the kids. She was going on and on about how my kids were lazy and this that and the other. This all coming from a single young immature Mom. She has her Mom taking care of her kid. I am sorry.....lol..... but I am very adamant about this (if you cant already tell) I was a single Mom for 3 yrs and I was **** good at it. Grant it I have made mistakes but I never let my kids go without. I would go without before they would. Any who please any advice any of you have out there please gve it to me.