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    Unhappy Sister problems...

    I'm not sure where to start with this....

    I have an older sister, who I have always had problems with, off and on, growing up. For the most part, she tormented me throughout the years, she was really pretty and popular in school, and I was not the most attractive, and not the most popular, i've always marched to the beat of my own drum. Anyway, because of this, she treated me poorly, and we didn't have much of a relationship. She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and gained 200 plus pounds, from a combination of her medication and her not wanting to do anything anymore.

    When we became adults, she moved nearby, and I started coming over to her apartment, and calling her, and helping her with her emotional problems, and anything else she asked of me. I never asked for anything in return, as I have found out that asking her for anything makes her angry with me, and I don't usually help others with the thought of getting something in return.
    Anyway, she is on a fixed income, of about 700 dollars a month, and recieves about 150 dollars in food stamps a month, just for her.
    I am unemployed, living in a small town, where there are no job openings at the moment....i've been looking for money is very tight for me, yet, she ended up gambling most of her money away each month for several months now, and I have helped her with monetary issues when I can.

    She disappared for awhile, (I am assuming upstate to a casino), and I heard she was back in town, so I went to her apartment building, to see if she was okay and if she needed anything. Plus, she's my sister, and I wanted to see her. Well, I buzzed her room, and after 15 minutes of standing in the main doors waiting for her, and elderly lady came to the door and told me that my sister did not want anything to do with me and I needed to leave.

    I don't understand, my feelings are very hurt...I have not done anything to my knowlege to make her do such a hurtful thing....the last time I talked to her was about a month ago, when she called me from a casino and asked me to check her mail, and read it to her, which I did.

    I don't know what to do about this, any suggestions? I feel really used.

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    Some people are selfish, and takers. Some are non-selfish and givers.

    The givers always without a doubt get hurt and the takers always without a doubt don't get it and don't care...

    The elderly lady may very well be a neighbour whom has felt sorry for your sister as well and she will no doubt get hurt and taken and so it goes on.

    Bipolar is also a decease and people aren't rational, so try not to take it all to heart.

    Just keep being you, because a beautiful soul is exactly that, beautiful.


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    Thanks for the kind words...

    I know that my sister, to a point, can not help being the way she is. I also realize that she gets more than enough help from others to live a good life, and therefore doesn't need me, really, but I can't help but worry when I don't see her for weeks on end.

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    I full understand sister problems. My older sister acts the same way and has rejected me for so many years. I did not realize she felt this way until the death of our parents, when she (being the only sibling) did not call me and let me know. Some other relative had to call me to let me know that my parents had passed. My sister lives next door to them and should have been the one to call. I tell you this was major, and I was very hurt by her behavior. I am in therapy working out some of these issues, because being rejected by my only living sibling is painful. It is nice to have a place to vent and let it all out. I have decided to try to let her behavior go. I have been told by my mother's dear friend that my older sister was jealous of me from the time my mother came home with me. Holiday, she does not call, If I call her, she will not call back, nor will she answer the telephone, and I know she has caller I.D. I sent her a b-day card not thank you or nothing. Finally, I am at the end of my rope, I have suffered long enough. I finally get the message, she does not want anything to do with me. I can not make her love me, nor make her heart feel something that it won't. But for my mental, spiritual, and physical health, I must let her go and live my life.

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    both of your situations are sad. it hurts sometimes to be a giver and always being taken for granted. some where in their minds where anger lives they feel justified to behave in this manor.

    Keep your chin up keep loving yourself and life will give you good friends to replace the sisters you have lost.

    Bipolar is hard on all who are involved and it hurts


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