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    My boyfriend just left to Missouri and I want to go live with my mom so I can go to visit my boyfriend. My dad might think it best for me to stay with him but I know that I will go crazy going three years not being able to see my boyfriend. I know that if your a mom and your reading this you'll probably think I'm crazy, but when I go to see my boyfriend I'm not coming back home. I have permission from his mom and his moms boyfriend to go live with them. I just feel like I'd be abandoning my dad. I don't want to leave him out in the cold. We never see each other, and we never talk to each other. I just know that if I go live with my boyfriend then I will succeed in anything I do because he is an inspiration to me and he will push me to do what I need to do to reach my goals. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dragonwings2010 View Post
    My boyfriend just left to Missouri and I want to go live with my mom so I can go to visit my boyfriend. My dad might think it best for me to stay with him but I know that I will go crazy going three years not being able to see my boyfriend. I know that if your a mom and your reading this you'll probably think I'm crazy, but when I go to see my boyfriend I'm not coming back home. I have permission from his mom and his moms boyfriend to go live with them. I just feel like I'd be abandoning my dad. I don't want to leave him out in the cold. We never see each other, and we never talk to each other. I just know that if I go live with my boyfriend then I will succeed in anything I do because he is an inspiration to me and he will push me to do what I need to do to reach my goals. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.
    Poor girl, you are going to think i'm chucking questions on-going to you.

    Obviously you have discussed this with your boyfriend about moving in with him and his family...

    Big move after 6 months together, yet people can click and fall within shorter time, but living together is a different thing.

    So glad that you feel such a strong connection with him.

    What has he said about the move?

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    my boyfriend hates the idea of being so far away from home. he misses me and he really wants me out there with him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dragonwings2010 View Post
    my boyfriend hates the idea of being so far away from home. he misses me and he really wants me out there with him.
    Well, i would say, we all grow up one day and spread our wings, as we become "adults" in life and have to make our own choices.

    Tell that to your dad, coupled with you are still and will always be his "princess" and you LOVE him...

    Parents understand life and what goes with it, especially love.

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    Why is he going to be gone for 3 years?

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    my boyfriend's mom moved them out to missouri to start a new life and if i continue to live with my dad i wont get to see my boyfriend until im 18

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    Unfortunately, most "high school age" relationships fall apart. Not because you don't love each other, but because people change, intrinsically, and quickly during those years.
    Do you have friends where your dad lives? How about where your mom lives? Have you already started high school? It can be hard to find a new group of friends if you move right in the middle of things.
    Enjoy your time as a teenager and enjoy your space. If it's meant to be, you'll endure the distance. You don't say where you live in comparison to Missouri; maybe you can visit him often, since he does live near your mother?
    Don't let any outside person control where you go. It's not worth the trouble.

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    My mom and my dad both live in CA. My Boyfriend lives in MO. My family is blessed with the fact that whoever we fall in love with, we stay together. My boyfriend was one of my best friends for a long time before we started dating. I know a lot of people will be like, yeah, they wont stay together but i think we will. My sister married her best friend and now her and her husband have been together for three years. My oldest sister has two children by the man she fell in love with at my age. If I continue to live with my dad I wont get to see my boyfriend until I turn 18. If I go live with my mom then I can go see my boyfriend and possibly go live with his family. My mom has no problem with it and neither does his family.

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    Oh and I forgot. I am home schooled and I only talk to my best friend and my boyfriend. Seriously, thats the only people I talk to. I couldnt handle the high school drama, it was seriously affecting my grades.

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    Well there is a reason why people are going to say you guys won't last. Of all the couples I have ever know, only one that I know of was a high school romance. My personal thoughts are that youth is a time to learn and experiment of how relationships are created and built. (ie Dating) Don't waste this time to just one person.

    dragonwings2010Oh and I forgot. I am home schooled and I only talk to my best friend and my boyfriend. Seriously, thats the only people I talk to. I couldnt handle the high school drama, it was seriously affecting my grades.

    Those are the only people you talk to... How do you know that this guy is truley the man for you? You seem to have a very small amount of experience to judge what is a meaningful attributes in a relationship.

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