Thread: unexpected child sexual abuse

I dont want to sound out of line here and im pretty sure it is so please excuse me...could it have happened to you at a young young age? So you dont remember but its in your subconcious...therefore happening in dreams? Thats just a thought, a horrible one, feel free to dismiss it



It's a very strange situation to be in and if no-one will take you seriously then the only person to ask is your dad and i doubt there'd be a positive outcome whether its falling out with your dad or finding out something your not sure you want to know?


I'd try and avoide all children related conversations, dont give him the oppertunity to make the comments i guess

Im stumped on this thread i really am, sorry i couldnt be of more help

I'm a little bit sceptical, to be honest.

I mean, every case is different. I've known 14 year old girls who enjoy going out and getting shagged by 25 year olds, and even though they're stup1d and naive, they are ready for it.... And there are 18 year olds who simply are not ready for sex, so it is all case dependant.

And most things in the world these days do try to make you think sex is bad. All you get taught at school is diseases and unwanted pregnancy. He could just be trying to get you to love yourself, and be an open person instead of being totally repressed.

I would say it's true that paedophiles would be likely to be paranoid, since anyone who does something illegal has reason to be paranoid. However, paranoia (and habits) can be quite heriditary, so you could just be being totally paranoid.

People are notorious at not listening to talk like this though, even to someone who's been assaulted, there's this big world of denial, especially from the mothers.


Personally.... I doubt it. I'd also point out that, for example in England the age of consent is 16, 18 is simply stup1d. Every guy has fantasized about having sex with a 17 year old girl - it doesn't make them a paedophile though.

There is a big range between "a little odd", and a "child molestor". Sounds like your dad is a little odd. He may find the topic a bit inappropriately interesting. He may just enjoy the shock value of talking about the forbidden. It doesn't sound like you have any reason to think he has actually done somethign. But I can see how it would be creepy. Is he around young children?

that's not fair saying about how I might be paranoid just because my dad is. I have other mental problems probably passed down from him, but not that. I know you'll say, "but how would you know you're not paranoid, all paranoid people think they're sane and what they think is real"...but that's not it. I am basing this not just on dreams, but on real comments that my mom has heard as well. I'm not at all sure that my dad really is this, I really hope not, but anyway even if he isn't, it's pretty disgusting that he's made these comments (there's been more than just what I said on here), even if just for "shock value" and how am I supposed to look at my dad the same? There's really no excuse for comments like that but everybody else thinks there is, and I think it's natural for it to raise questions in me.

Also, AWF, I agree that it's normal for adult guys to be attracted to 16 and 17 year old girls.. but just before my dad made that comment, I said, "well dad, do you think SIX is too young" And that was when he made the comment, he definitely heard what I said too, I said it loudly and clearly. Maybe he was still talking about the 17 year old, but I don't think so.

Also, yes, I have thought of the idea that he did something to me and my sister when we were too young to remember now. That's what I was "told" in a dream I had, that he had done that to us but he stopped at about five so we wouldn't remember when we got older.

I really hope that it's not true, and to tell you the truth my dad is in the other room ,and he seems so harmless and I've been having memories of him (not specific ones, but just a general feeling) of having fun with him as a kid and him just being a regular old dad and giving regular old hugs. But I"m still not sure. And to be honest, I'm completely FURIOUS at society (and my therapist specifically, I understand with my family because they really don't want to believe something like that) for not taking things like this seriously. All I want is to be heard, I ALSO want to be proven wrong, I love my dad, but I can't let this go until I am sure. If my dad has nothing to hide then nothing is going to happen to him. I'm certainly not going to claim he abused me when I don't have any actual conscious memories or proof.

I just think it's awful that no one will listen to me, cause even if it's not true for me, it's true for SOMEBODY and if they get the shutting of ears that I've gotten that's just not right.

oh and one more thing....I didn't mean that pedophiles are more likely to be paranoid because they have something to hide...although that's probably true...what I read in three articles on the net was that a certain class of mental illness (including schizophrenia, masochism, and paranoia) actually exist more often in the minds of pedophiles than they do in the rest of the population. Of course who knows if those studies I read are accurate at all, that's just what I read.