we're worse than a Jerry Springer show.

**acerousme** · 07-28-2008 12:59 AM

I need help.
I am seriously stuck in the middle of this screwed up family. Ok, let me debreif you on the situation....my oldest sister (the psycho ) WAS dating this guy, and they had a beautiful girl together. (the psycho one has 2 kids...but they have different dads). For a while..this guy was out of our lives...and then he suddenly came back into our lives....and is now dating my OTHER older sister (the good one)....and so my older sisters got into a fight...and I ended up being punched in the face by the psycho trying to stick up for the good one. Now the psycho wants all her child support...whereas before she didnt even call him her babys daddy, or talk to him about it. But since the good sister is dating him...of course she is going to rear her ugly fangs and try to sink em' in as deep as possible. So my neices' dad is taking her to court...and he wants FULL custody (something the psycho doesnt know yet). Helllooooo...the psycho spends the child support on HERSELF...and her habbits...(marijuana, and cigarettes).
The problem Im having...is that she has now moved BACK IN with my mom, step-dad and I...even though she's like...30. She only pays $350.00 cad./month...doesnt buy groceries, and doesnt take care of her kids AT ALL....I do it all. I bathe them, feed them, and everything else...and here's another thing...I stopped bathing them for a while, because I got fed up with having to do all of it, and clean the house (my mom has a bad back, and my step-dad is habitually lazy)...and guess what...the kids got sick. They caught hand, foot, and mouth disease.
OH...and the other night, she got off work at midnight...and she usually gets home around 12:23...and she didnt freaking come home until 4:30 AM...saying she was just driving....and then had the NERVE to tell my mom that "she didnt come home for a lecture".

I am getting soooooo sick and tired of this ...its unbelieveable. I have nobody to talk to about it, and nowhere to go. What do I do?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-28-2008 01:35 AM

It's very difficult for you i know..

Your only what? 20 and your coping with the whole family problems, looking after your nieces and i assume still suffer from aracophobia?

Obviously, you can't leave and obviously the "bad" sister is wasted and uses people.

You just have to take control of your life a little more and try to distance yourself more, it's not your fault that the kids got sick, you can't do everything and it's not your fault that the two sisters are fighting..

I think you are getting councelling for the aracophobia i hope this helps and you can eventually get your own place and own life..

Just try to remember that you have a whole life ahead of you and won't be there forever...

Not much help but it's hard.

PS: No spell check on this computer, forgive the spelling...

CW

**damd** · 07-28-2008 05:38 AM

Why can't we all just have the perfect family? Would it be so hard for everyone to just accept their responsibility? Why can't some people that don't deserve to have children, have been born sterile, while some that are sterile deserve to have children? Unfortunatley, I can relate (a little) to your plight. I have a sister-in-law that is, well she is bipolar. So she is hot and cold, she can be really nice then at any moment she is instantly a b*tch. She has three children, all different dads, horrible mother. Fortunately, she is no longer living with her folks (we'll see how long that last, sponge).
So what can you do? I really don't know. There is no end in sight. All you really can do is to go on with your life. If you find a guy keep him away from the crazy farm. Take care of yourself and get the h*ll out of there. It can sound selfish but you can't allow your sister to dictate your life. As for your niece/nephews, they'll have to do with the lot that life has given them. You can do what you can do to help, but they are, ultimately, not your responsibility. That doesn't mean that you don't love them.

I don't envy you, but good luck. Get the h*ll out.

**acerousme** · 07-28-2008 11:33 PM

it is super hard.

I HATE her so much, and yea...because of my fear of going out, and leaving home...it makes it worse.

My dad is always telling me to get out more...but he doesnt know about my problem. Its so hard!

I went to the doctor about my panic attacks...and all he did was UP my anti-depressants...and did nothing for my agoraphobia...he told me to move out...yea, easy enough for him to say.

writing about my problems has helped though. Im glad I now have a way to vent my anger, to people who wont judge me.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-28-2008 11:39 PM

Originally Posted by acerousme

it is super hard.

I HATE her so much, and yea...because of my fear of going out, and leaving home...it makes it worse.

My dad is always telling me to get out more...but he doesnt know about my problem. Its so hard!

I went to the doctor about my panic attacks...and all he did was UP my anti-depressants...and did nothing for my agoraphobia...he told me to move out...yea, easy enough for him to say.

writing about my problems has helped though. Im glad I now have a way to vent my anger, to people who wont judge me.

Absolutely, actually we all vent here sometimes, including me trust me.

Did you also have a fan that you used to leave on high? And now leave lower? I can't remember but i think that you also had an alergic reaction to this.

I am not sure if panic attacks and agoraphobia ( thanks for getting me to spell it right), are not simular if you think about it. The are both fear......

Are you trying to venture out a bit more? You have all these boys to date you know...

That will take your mind of your sister eventually.

Keep smiling.

**acerousme** · 07-29-2008 04:36 PM

I looked up agoraphobia...and it really sounds like I have it. I seriously have major panic attacks when I have to go to town. It is so bad that I dont really go out. I just get super scared to the point where I get sick. Even when I was working...I would have major panic attacks. My friends dont know about my fear...so I always end up telling them that Im sick or something when I chicken out.

no, the fan thing wasnt me...but it kind of sounds like me...I have a fan in my room, and it blows air onto me at night, and I think its blowing a lot of pet dander into my face...not sure?

hahaha, I WISH I had boys to date. The one guy that was ALL over me at the one party I went to, told my friend that he "felt bad for me" because I still like him...HA, I dont like him anymore!!!!!

**brandi** · 07-24-2009 11:21 PM

Hi I have the same problem I get very scared and I felt like I was going to die if I left my house but I finally made myself go to the doctors after about two years. The doctor put me on paxil and it has done wonders for me I dont know if it would do the same for you but you really need to talk to your doctor and see if there is any thing you can do. It may also help you deal with your crazy sister. well good luck

**WildChild** · 07-25-2009 07:06 AM

Welcome to the forum. This is an old post - ancient history. Ace has long since moved on and out to bigger and better things. Why not start your own thread or contribute your thoughts to a more current thread?

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