I'm Getting Married in October...Help Me?

**avvie_88** · 06-30-2012 11:23 PM

Hey y'all! I need some girls with style to give opinions!

Here's the deal--I'm a jeans and tank top kind of girl--I can't accessorize, I can't put OUTFITS together... I'm pretty much a boy trapped in a girls body when it comes to fashion.

I also have a tricky body to dress. I'm a smidge shy of 5'1 and weigh about 115lbs. I'm very athletic, flat belly... People never think I weigh as much as I do, but I carry a LOT of my weight in my lower half (which I obviously try to hide when I'm feeling to large haha). I have a butt, and thick legs, all the way to my calves. I also have broad shoulders for my size--which isn't noticeable as long as I avoid tops that accentuate it (like halter).

Anyway, I'm getting married in October in Florida. We're looking at doing it on the beach. We don't want it serious. We want it to be about family being together; the fact that we're getting married comes second.
My fiancee (who's WAY more into planning this than I am haha) suggested I wear a white sundress and he'd wear a white button down and slacks. Only problem is, the way sundresses are cut (or the material or something) does NOT flatter me, more specifically my tooshie, at ALL. It bunches up and I end up looking like I'm wearing a bussel dress! D: Google it if you're not familiar...you'll get the horror then. haha
He also threw out the option of wearing our bathing suits under whatever we wear...so for him, instead of slacks, he's wear his board shorts...which would be more our style.

I really want to wear my cowgirls boots...and I'm in for the bathing suit! But I do feel like maybe I should cover up a bit more for our "I dos," right? But what could I wear--more specifically, WHERE could I get it? I want to look tiny, like I really am; I don't want my booty to make me look huge--like it tends to do in dresses.

I mean, I could rock the bikini, boots, and a cowgirl hat <3 ...but I feel like that's for the "after-party"

Any advice?!

**Hugo-B** · 07-01-2012 03:36 AM

Just remember that there are going to be a LOT of pictures taken on the 'big day', you're going to need to feel comfortable in whatever you wear because you'll be reminded of the day, and the outfit you opt to wear by photographs for a long, long time.

I thought all girls wanted a wedding dress?

Good luck x

**avvie_88** · 07-01-2012 10:32 PM

I'm about as far from "all girls" as it could possibly get.
I know I need to be comfortable in what I wear, which is why I'm refusing to wear the sundress.

I'm actually not into the whole "wedding" thing. If I wouldn't end up feeling super guilty, I wouldn't mind one bit if we didn't even have one. I already feel married, so all this extra stuff is just more on my plate.

My mom actually suggested one of those kind of sheer sarong things... Kind of liked that idea? Maybe just have to nix the boots.

**ItsASecret** · 07-01-2012 11:58 PM

I am also one of those girls that does not give two hoots about being the bride in a white dress and all that stuff, but when I do get married I will have the wedding out of guilt and so I do not have to be talked about later as being crazy for not wanting a wedding lol. But if you are wanting a bathing suit you can cover it up with a beach sarong like your mom mentioned. There are plenty of designs and it is more flowy than anything so it will not cling to you like a sundress would. There are also styles that cover the whole body, more of a see-through full body shirt but it is still sheer enough to be covering so that you are not just in a bikini on the beach. Then after like you say you can rock the bikini by itself lol. Look around in the beach shops and more high end bathing suit places so that you can see a variety of options.

**KungFuKitty** · 10-01-2012 06:57 PM

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

I am also one of those girls that does not give two hoots about being the bride in a white dress and all that stuff, but when I do get married I will have the wedding out of guilt and so I do not have to be talked about later as being crazy for not wanting a wedding lol. But if you are wanting a bathing suit you can cover it up with a beach sarong like your mom mentioned. There are plenty of designs and it is more flowy than anything so it will not cling to you like a sundress would. There are also styles that cover the whole body, more of a see-through full body shirt but it is still sheer enough to be covering so that you are not just in a bikini on the beach. Then after like you say you can rock the bikini by itself lol. Look around in the beach shops and more high end bathing suit places so that you can see a variety of options.

have you considered an old fashioned rockabilly style dress? (removed outbound link)