Thread: Are men only attracted to slim women, or do they like fat women too?

Over-all, the appearance is the first attraction - getter or buster, whether you are overweight, within the median, or slim, this will get the initial attention.

But as a man gets to know the real you...weight wouldn't matter that much.

I'd say though that whatever men prefer, as a woman, you have to go for what is ideal and healthy for you based on your height and age. do it for you, not for the man. You want to increase your longevity? Push for what's healthy for you, not for any aesthetic/superficial, man-related reasons.

I've seen many sides of the coin.. as a teenager I was slim and attractive and got constant male attention. In my early adult years I was overweight... then severely overweight and have seen not only the lack of attention from men but women as well. In fact men would react indifferently to me when I was overweight... as if I was inhuman, not to be acknowldged this way or that way. Some women would feel the need to give me a look of dissaproval or even disgust... some of the women overweight themselves... but not as overweight as me.

Now I am in my early 30's and a size 3, toned tight with curves. I get lots of attention for men that now realizing I'm worthy of opening a door for, helping with my groceries, walking me to my car... etc etc. However... I still get looks of dissaproval from women, if I am wearing something a little too revealing, I get the same eyerolls that I did when I was heavy only this time it seems to be more of envy.

I've come to find that women are harder on the overweight than men, even if they themselves are overweight. I know some men can be cruel to overweight women, but in my experience I found that either they payed attention to me and showed interest, or they didn't at all.

I do think there are guys out there that are genuinly attracted to a fuller figured gal, and some that are interested in slim, but prefer the heart to the body and fall in love with overweight girls.

I do think that by and large the closer you are to your ideal body weight, the more male options you would have... but then you have to keep in mind that you face a whole host of other issues besides your body weight that you have to come to terms with... and thats feeling worthy of love, despite your being an ideal size or not.

Originally Posted by Tex

I don't know why anyone would want to starve themselves to look like a skinny boy.

I can tell you exactly why Look at mainstream porn, look at the most popular starlettes, reality tv tarts :P etc... Its thin with big boobs.

Since its pretty near impossible to be both rail thin and well-endowed in the breasts-- its thin with big FAKE boobs.

Men , real men... everyday men, that talk say they don't like that body type, that they prefer some meat, they prefer natural breasts, they don't like to see the bobblehead barbie dolls -- I wonder why haven't castings for modeling, tv, movies, magazines and porn gotten that memo?