Thread: Are men only attracted to slim women, or do they like fat women too?

Men are attracted to women who are healthy and self confident.

If you are a good person and confident with yourself you will find someone who will respect and love you for who you are.

I think that there are plenty of men in the world that love someones heart and mind and personality first and the package it comes in doesn't even matter... so they'd be just as attracted to someone overweight as underweight.

There are plenty of men that have a specific attraction to women that are anywhere from a little "thicK" to morbidly obese, the latter usually being a fetish interest.

There are some men will be with an overweight women hoping they can change her, shame her, mold her into the size they want, pick on her, constantly complain about her weight and make her feel bad.

The last 2 examples I gave are obviously the men I would avoid, depending on how you want to live your life.

I would want to be with a guy that loves me as I am but can love me if I decide to try to get fit, and support.

Some of the guys that are all about a girl being overweight , thats their thing... will not be supportive of changes you may try to make and in fact can be quite enabling because they want to keep you that way. Which to me would be fine as far as looks go, but for health reasons we know its better to get rid of the weight especially later in life where it starts to have an effect on health more noticably.

And I'd never want to be with the guy that got with me because I had a pretty face and he thought I had "potential"... one that would criticize me and compare me to others and roll his eyes every time I ate something... etc.

I think the first thing you should do is stopping looking at in terms of 'would anyone be attracted to me as I am overweight?" Instead think of who is it that deserves you? Because you are something special.

Some men (and women) view being overweight as a character flaw, a symptom of other problems and will stay away for that reason. Thin women have just as many 'character flaws' but many don't wear them as the first thing guys see and so are often given a chance that they wouldn't give someone overweight.

I think if you want love, and wanted to be in a relationship... you could without a doubt find someone that is attracted to you as you are now, loves your insides and outs, will support you if you decide to take off some pounds but wouldn't ever critisize you or think less of you for not doing so.

I think its important to have an open mind on who you are letting into your life and be willing to see people's insides as well. I'm not saying, if you are overweight you should have to settle for less than you think you deserve I'm saying that knowing you don't want to be judged for your body should put you in a position to be able to look at someone not judging them about theirs and be open to being attracted to guys that might not fit your physical ideal... but your emotional ideal.

I read craigslist personals from time to time just to see what people say and I can't tell you how many postings I see of both men AND women , that admit to being moderately overweight to severely and yet state that they are seeking someone with an awesome slim and tight looking body ... "sorry", they say, "that is just my preference".

I always think to myself if they would be just as open-minded as they are asking someone else to be... they may just find love.

The important thing is being happy with yourself. I was very overweight a few years ago and did have men that would ask me out... but I was not feeling good about myself and always declined. I think you have to find a way to love yourself enough at any size as that in itself is a very attractive feature to someone.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Men are different.

Personally, I like slim women. Evolutionarily speaking, if my mate is running away from a tiger carrying my child, I want them to have a chance of survival.

Seriously anon, "evolutionarily speaking"... when you are checking about girls... you really think you are measuring up their ability to run away from a tiger? Evolutionarily speaking men would be more drawn to women with full breasts and baby making hips too...

People like what they like.... I think calling something evolutionary is a convienent cop-out.

No more than a woman should dump a good hearted guy they have fallen in love with everytime someone richer comes along, (evolutionarily speaking they should always be trading up to provide for their ever growing pack of children!) I disbelieve that everyone in the world is so un-evolved that they're only goal in dating and love is breeding and breeding good stock.

I've heard you mention genetics, anon... and now running from tigers and I seriously wonder if you are trying to be at all helpful to the question at hand or if you are just trying to cause groans. Seriously.