have lost weight..want to gain a few kgs..!!

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-25-2011 02:05 AM

I have had a tough phase of my life.. which affected my eating habits badly..and now in last 8months have lost almost 8 kgs..i was always a little lean.. but i did had a sexy curvy body..
please tell me how i can get all that weight back..and also have the same curvy body again..
PS. i am vegetarian.. suggest me ways and foods that are exclude eggs meat n stuff like that..

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-25-2011 02:37 AM

Hun,

Stress actually makes you lose weight dramatically...

If you are saying your stressed, haven't eaten as much as you used to, regardless of what your diet is, then you have to address the stress.

To put weight back on that's vegetarian, can you eat nuts, yoghurt, cream, cheese...they are good fat.

Are you stressing and if so what about?

CW

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-25-2011 02:54 AM

well i have had a great setback in my career related exams...failures and failures.. have taken a drop..and given a complete year again to give all the exams again...the entrance exams to the engineering colleges i wanted.. plus my relation with my boyfriend ..too many ups and downs in the relationship ..then my morale is also quite low.. sitting at home ..studying ..so no friends.. its been a depressive year..and so.. loss of appetite
the year is soon going to end.. but now i dont have the same glowing skin.. the sexy body.. and i look quite weak now..
which does affect my self confidence now..

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-25-2011 03:06 AM

Passion in our lives, makes us want.

Can I be honest? Your boyfriend is more concerned with you giving to him... You've forgone your morals, values and dreams, beliefs and concentrating on him, keeping him because all else is failing.. What if all else is failing because your concentrating on giving in to his demands and all he wants?

If a person has a negative effect on your life, you have no choice but to get them out of it or you lose and they win, they get to get what they want whilst you get to live for them not you.

I think you want the glowing skin, sexy body for him.

I think you've ditched your dream, goals for a boy.

And, that would be okay if he was the one, but the one, never demands, never, accepts pain, doctors, blood and asks for it again, never.

Is he worth you throwing your life away again? You've been given a second chance to try again, over this year.

Engineering? You can do it, you want it.. you will make friends doing it, you won't succeed with a man who is not behind you, toxic, wanting, needing, demanding it's draining you, your stressing, your not motivated, your not happy and your lonely, depressed over it all and think that he is what you need, all you have.

If you want to succeed? Only someone that wants you to as well can be "NEXT" to you... on this journey.

CW

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-25-2011 04:20 AM

you are absolutely right.. i agree with all that you say.. i myself know the constant disagreements with him have been a major reason for the setbacks in my career..i have thought over it a million times.. of separation too..but his being so supporting at the times i feel low..and now when he is in other city since last 5 months..( i do keep a check there which he doesn't know..)..his loyalty when he has just so many better options around.. who actually want to be with him....
and whenever i ask him.. i feel like meeting or maybe when i miss him.. he lies to his family there..manages to drive all the way..4 hrs to meet me.. and then go back driving again.. wasting all the day.. just because i wanted..
and maybe the beautiful memories i had with him..all these still somewhere keep me linked to him..and again i drop the thought of separation...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-25-2011 02:27 PM

I think I answered your rune readings

Only joking, I'll still read them, somewhere over the next couple of days, but tell me, he lies to his family to see you? Why is that?

Seperation are you married to him?

There are some good qualities, but is he possessive? Perhaps he doesn't want you to succeed and so trys to ensure you don't because he will feel he will lose you as you will be stronger than him, smarter than him, financial...

Loyalty is good, respect and not allowing someone to follow their dreams is possession, controlling...You know that he stops you and you admit that, why does he do that? Is it do you think the above?

Memories are the initial start of a relationship, we hang on to those and tell ourselves we can get that all back,but the true person comes out, after the honeymoon stage is over..

I admire his attention to you, driving the distance but again that could be possession, ensuring that you don't stray...

I am worried why he is lying to his parents to see you.

I think you have enough on your plate without hiding?

CW

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-27-2011 12:23 AM

ohh no..we are both not telling our families for now...marriage is not in the charts for now.. not before he settles with his business after he has done his business studies.. and not before i have done 4yrs of my engineering then 2 yrs of MBA ..or maybe 2yrs of my job..so we aint telling anybody before we finally are two independent persons ..having a respectable job and status..he has no problems with my dreams regarding my career.. my mum dad are growing old..i have a kid brother ..will have to take his responsibilities.. my career means everything to me.. i can never see myself as just a daughter of someone and then maybe a wife of someone...no ways.. he also wants me to make it to the engineering college i want..because if not that particular college.. i will have to choose a college that is far off ..which would mean getting to meet him just once in 4-5months...so he desperately wants me to do good in the exams this year.. it is just that we disagree on issues a lot these days..and then the fights shift our focus to frustrations and irritations..which is badly affecting our careers..and mine being a crucial year..affected more badly..

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-27-2011 12:24 AM

I admire his attention to you, driving the distance but again that could be possession, ensuring that you don't stray...

**ayushi daswani14** · 02-27-2011 01:20 AM

but again you are right.. i feel confused.. yes he is too possessive.. and i dont really think this side of him will ever change..but i dont know if i should just break up with him for this reason when so far he has been loving me with all his heart..we are dating since last 2yrs..
Regarding the other posts about anal sex ..i never really said a strict NO.. i told him once or twice i dont see myself prepared for it again.. the last time we had it( it was 8 months back).. we were just starting with it and i got hurt.. so we never proceeded with it.. that was the first time when we both were trying anal.. so not enough lube or anything was the reason..
i have never seen him being selfish in bed.. he has always been considerate..but just every once in a while when we talk..(you know we are in two different cities.. we talk on phone.. almost all the free time we get.. we manage ..n get to meet once in 10-12 days..)like maybe once in a month or something.. he says.."Ayushi ..i soon want to try that anal thing again.. we'll do it properly with lube this time.." and somewhere i am not wanting to have it for now..so it makes me uncomfortable..
maybe i am just too nervous to try it again..so it irritates me.. thinking that "ONCE" when i have told you not before these few months of exams..you shouldn't be forgetting what i said...