Urgh, I really do not know what to do. I have been with my partner for almost 6 years, we have a 3 year old daughter together and I also have an 11 year old who lives with my mother due to past issues with my health. Anyway, he was the normal happy, loving partner for the first 6 months, then things started to slide. Shouting, intimidating and really hurtful. Since then things had got a lot worse, he has only pushed me once, grabbed me twice but really did some damage to me in 2015 where my arm and shoulder were broken as well as 3 fascet joints in my spine, my 3 yr old saw the whole thing..... I believed he was sorry etc etc so tried to put it behind us, however, he has not been physically abusive since but is still hurling verbal abuse at me, I'm useless, lazy, don't do anything for him etc etc. He makes me feel horrendous and like I'm worth nothing. Baring all this in mind, all I want is some support and consideration. I have ALOT of illnesses, diabetes type 1 ( very unstable ), bipolar, anxiety, personality disorder, M.E ( aka CFS ), Fibromyalgia, IBS, disability in my feet, eating disorder plus still severe loss of mobility in my arm due to what happened and awaiting operation, and that's just to name a few!. Then there is the stress with my daughter, typical terrible 3's in my opinion lol, I do everything for him, from waking up at 6am to start my day, make his lunch, coffee, wake him up and get him sorted before work, get my daughter up and sorted, then its the usual house blitz, tea prep and running around before then cooking and serving tea, washing up, bathing little one, then she goes to bed while I continue to clean up as he sits on his ****** on the sofa. OK so he works and I appreciate that, but is it wrong for me to feel hurt when he says I do nothing and I need to 'man up' and get over what he did and just get on with the illnesses, I'm not allowed to have a lie in, rest, chill out etc as then I'm lazy. I'm 200 miles away from my friends and family and have no support here, we have his family but they don't help either, I'm literally with my daughter 247 and get no help with her either ( not that I expect it ). I have nowhere to run or move to, and all I worry about is if he did leave he has nowhere to go, but saying that when I do tell him to leave he wont anyway :-(, any advice? xxx sorry for the essay
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Advice please ladies, ive no idea what to do