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    I wish I was a full D, but I'm stuck with a big A/small B.

    To make matters worse I'm not really slim, sure I'm not fat, but I could lose a few pounds but I'm afraid I'll end up being flat if I do.

    I hate this obsession with big breasts. Every time I turn on the TV I see a huge pair of breasts. Every magazine. And all men seem to ogle are big breasts.

    Of course the ideal is to have big, natural breasts. But what's really sickening is that big, fake breasts are better than small naturals. Just watch TV. Most of the big breasted women, have huge plastic knockers.

    I hate this because it's everywhere and I'm becoming really self critical and depressed. Even though I know I'm not ugly I just feel unattractive because of this. I just can't see myself as attractive because huge breasts are WAY better or so it seems.

    I have a boyfriend and he loves me and he says he loves my breasts, but I can't believe him. Because I know men say that, but behind our backs with their buddies they always talk about big breasts. He said he likes big breasts, but he's pleased with mine and also that he doesn't like them too big (but "too big" to him is probably an F cup and above). He said of course girls on TV have to be hot, more than normal women, because that's what they're paid for just like male actors. But I don't see as much male objectification as women's! Plus I don't like the fake male look either. It's disgusting.

    He says I'm far too critical of myself, but can he blame me? He says oher women are probably not like this, but what does he know, he has no close girl friends and even if he did they probably wouldn't talk about this with him.

    I resent men and the media. I hate my breasts. I hate every ad or porn or whatever that focuses on big breasts. Like those stupid comedies for males (Bachelor's Party 2).

    I would never have plastic surgery as it scares me and I wouldn't like having plastic .

    Why can't small breasts be as hot as big ones? Why do big ones have to be so adored? I hate it, men seem to lose the ability to think when they see huge breasts and we're supposed to accept it and deal with it, even if they're fake breasts, how unfair, I choose to be natural but yet I'm worse than fake women.

    (Sorry if I offended anyone, I'm just feeling like , been feeling like this since I was like 14).

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    Small breasts are as hot as big ones - it's all in YOUR attitude. If you want to lose weight without losing your bust check out the flat belly diet. It's not supposed to do the usual diet thing where the boobs are the first to go.

    I've been small busted all my life, wear an A or B depending on the style. It's happened more than once that the man in life has guessed I was much larger - no I don't like padding or push ups, I think it's good posture and liking what I have. When I was a young teen one of my best freinds had a huge bust, she hated it, couldn't look down and see her own feet. They didh't have silicon then, she had to have special made bras. Hearing how much she envied those of us who were smaller made me really appreciate my size. I've never lacked for male attention. You have a man who likes you just as you are!!! If you had big boobs you'd never know what it was he liked, you or your bust.

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    I've usally prefered Big busted women in the past, not huge, I don't think huge is sexy really.

    But, I think small breast are sexy, If you work on your weight like what was mentioned from WC, I'm sure that will make a difference in proportion.

    Besides too much is too much. I'm not sure if you have the boob thing right as far as men talking, I mean I know they do but they talk about cute bottoms too. Most the time in a club a friend will walk up to me and say, hey did you see the bo-tocks on that girl! At least 3 out of five odds!

    If he, your B/F tells you that he likes them, take his word for it. Most of us are not going to be the #10 that everyone may seem to shoot for. It's the rest of you that counts, what ever that would give you that sex appeal. And of course, the real you is the most important, is it not?

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    and like women dont talk about how big men are...

    but in the spirit of honesty and in line with what in-need said, i generally take notice of women with larger breasts too, but that's about it. doesnt make them more desirable!

    i have 2 semi-close female friends, and i hope neither of them ever read this... one is an A and the other is a D and they are both very attractive (physically and intellectually IMHO). If things were wayyyy different for everyone involved, i'd probably be more attracted to the A, and not because of breast size, but because of "her".

    not to get too vulgar, but the hottest pair I've seen is a B. but that also has a lot to do with "her", as opposed to the size.

    so yeah, it's something guys look at and talk about, just like women do about us. granted we do it more...

    but just like women do, we prefer someone who is more than just a certain sized (fill in the blank).

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    You've got a lot of pent up resentment in there. None of that will help you to be happy.

    Sure, we have to deal with the hand we're given, the world is a certain way, and we are a certain way. Sometimes it's worth trying to change the world so that you fit in, other times it is a waste of time because it simply won't happen.

    There are ideal body types for both genders, which existed before TV came along to proliferate it. Of course in ye olde days, women would go for big muscly guys - those that could protect them, and men go for fertile women, and breasts are a visible sign of fertility.

    So - there it is - nature is a bitsh.

    Now, you can spend all your life hating nature, hate the fact that you might get a disease, hate the fact that you will eventually die, hate the fact that you get ingrowing toenails, hate the fact that you've got a receeding hairline (women care about hairlines as much as men care about breasts). However, is this really productive? If you spend all the time hating everything - nobody will want to be around you - not because you have small breasts but because it's tiresome.

    And come on, we all know you sisters like to gossip about the size of your mans appendage, so this resentment against men and the media is sort of pathetic.

    Find your own strength in who you are - to with everyone else.

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    Why do men believe the porn's myth that women get sooo aroused at the sight of a big penis?

    It's not true for me. Hey, if a guy doesn't know what he's doing, it hurts. Imagine having something big hurting you. Ouch!

    I guess it's uncomfortable, I mean, when I've gone to the gyno for check ups, and they do that exam to see if the ovaries have cysts or any anomalies, when they insert that scanner thing, and it's kind of big and well, it's uncomfortable. So no, it's a myth, me and my girlfriends almost never talk about the size, but what we do talk about is skill. Guys, skill is way more important. Your "thing" is more functional than aesthetic. That's why it's hidden during the interesting parts...

    Plus, breasts are usually always on display. Doesn't matter if you're wearing a huge sweater, people can usually tell how endowed we are. And don't go telling me about women talking about "size" too... sometimes we may talk about it, but it's not objectified in the media as breasts are. How many billboards have you seen that show men with big bits? Now, how many billboards have you seen that show women with huge cleavage?

    I don't think breasts have to do with fertility by the way. My sister has quite big breasts and yet she's almost infertile. Me on the other hand, I have small breasts, yet the doctor said I have such a healthy uterus and ovaries, that I'll never have problems getting pregnant. So there goes that theory.

    It's just not fair. And I'm not hating on everything. I just hate the fact that attractive = big breasts. Sorry, but if you haven't been rejected for a huge breasted girl (who had zero personality), then you don't know how it's like. I've been there. Guys, I appreciate your posts, but you don't know how it feels like to have the breasts constantly on display, and having this feeling of competition when big breasted women are flaunting it. Some even make comments or have looked at me with pity.

    I realize I can't change the world, but that doesn't take away my right for a rant. Believe it or not, breasts are a source of much emotional distress, for women of any size (because women with big breasts experience a lot of discomfort too). I just wish there was no better or worse, or simply, that breasts were just body parts with no sexual meaning. I just don't like the fact that as women we have to be of certain measurements to be considered "optimal breeding mates" (ie. attractive), and that those measurements are so hard to fit (if not impossible) and that they're constantly thrown in our faces. Especially since breast augmentations are so "no big deal" and acceptable nowadays, despite the risks, and wome who have undergone such surgeries are always trying to encourage other women to have them too, as if they were trying to convert us to some religious cult or something.

    Again, sorry if I offended anyone. I've just had enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    Why do men believe the porn's myth that women get sooo aroused at the sight of a big penis?

    It's not true for me. Hey, if a guy doesn't know what he's doing, it hurts. Imagine having something big hurting you. Ouch!
    All men do not prefer big breasts, in fact many prefer smaller breasts. It's not as simple as bigger=better. It's also about the style of woman, if she's athletic, it's not like her breasts will be large - but are athletic women not sexy?

    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    I guess it's uncomfortable, I mean, when I've gone to the gyno for check ups, and they do that exam to see if the ovaries have cysts or any anomalies, when they insert that scanner thing, and it's kind of big and well, it's uncomfortable.
    Sure, women will complain about massive penises, but probably brag at the same time. However, if a woman is confronted by a seriously below average penis, 3/4 inches, she will be disappointed.

    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    Plus, breasts are usually always on display. Doesn't matter if you're wearing a huge sweater, people can usually tell how endowed we are. And don't go telling me about women talking about "size" too... sometimes we may talk about it, but it's not objectified in the media as breasts are. How many billboards have you seen that show men with big bits? Now, how many billboards have you seen that show women with huge cleavage?
    It's true that breasts are more acceptable to see, so you see them far more often than male parts. IIRC it's illegal to show an erect penis on TV. That doesn't mean that people wouldn't care about its size.

    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    I don't think breasts have to do with fertility by the way. My sister has quite big breasts and yet she's almost infertile. Me on the other hand, I have small breasts, yet the doctor said I have such a healthy uterus and ovaries, that I'll never have problems getting pregnant. So there goes that theory.
    In our more instinctual times, men often selected breeding partners based on the size of their breasts, as a womans breasts swell slightly when she's fertile. Since those with larger breasts bred more, breasts in general grew, evolution. Monkeys don't exactly have breasts - they came from somewhere.

    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    It's just not fair. And I'm not hating on everything. I just hate the fact that attractive = big breasts. Sorry, but if you haven't been rejected for a huge breasted girl (who had zero personality), then you don't know how it's like.
    I'm sorry, every day I see attractive intelligent girls with stupid, lifeless musclemen. Another type of body type which is objectified. I know what it's like to not be the exact type that every woman dreams of.

    Quote Originally Posted by IhateTV
    Especially since breast augmentations are so "no big deal" and acceptable nowadays, despite the risks, and wome who have undergone such surgeries are always trying to encourage other women to have them too, as if they were trying to convert us to some religious cult or something.
    I'm not an advocate of breasts enlargement at all, and I'd be quite embarresed to have a partner who had had it done.

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    If you lost weight and even lost a little more around your boobs, you would be "petitie" would you not?

    Do you really think that men like to handle "rocks" or just show of his woman with huge fake boobs? Or that the woman, is insecure and therefore gets them done.

    Sure, she can wear tops without bras but it looks so false and I don't see the attraction.

    Why don't people see the positives? I am betting that someone in your past told you your boobs were small.

    The negatives of large boobs is when your old and they have to have a bra to hold them up or else they hang down hey ladies, haha.

    Don't you think there are women all over the world that hate their boobs " naked"?

    Because that is exactly what happens?

    I am betting they wish they had boobs like you and if there was a poll, that would show up.

    I don't know if having children make a different, perhaps I am lucky there, i can still get away without a bra and I am a B, but I can not and I know there are lots of others, I can not find tops to fit in most cases, they are made for smaller breasts and short straps and are un-comfortable...

    So, I could say I wish that they made more sexy tops for women with B,C cups. Alas, i just have to search longer to find them, what a pain, waste of hours, when A cups can go anywhere anytime and find any top and look cute.

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    So basically, I have to just shut up and accept my breasts? That I have no actual arguments to my pain? (Because yes, it hurts not to see my body type regarded as attractive, like having big breasts is. I have wide hips and it seems to count for nothing, as I often see women with small hips but huge breasts regarded as sexy, yet some like me are not).

    I have never said women are angels and men are pigs, there are undoubtedly some stereotypes that are quite true about women which are well, a shame (like the gold digger types).

    Of course everyone is entitled to their preferences, but I just feel that women have more pressure regarding looks, just like men suffer from more pressure regarding income (which I don't get. I've never been a spender, so I don't need a wealthy man).

    Anyway, I'll shut up now. I'm tired or arguing.

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    It's how you feel, you have a right to feel the way you want to.

    But this is a Forum and if people think they can offer an "opinion" that may be able to help, ease that "pain" they will do so.

    It's up to you if you can see "outside the square" or whether you wish to remain feeling "pain" over something that "shallow" over what you perceive men think.

    There are men here for instance that have answered you and they clearly state that they don't care...

    So if they don't other's don't.

    If it is TV that is making you feel this way, then don't watch it.

    SHALLOW people are exactly that. If they have a "type" must have, then you can bet that they don't know how to treat a person either.

    Stand tall and enjoy who you are and let people in your lives that like you just the way you are and tell everyone to get a life.

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