Thread: What can an ugly girl do?

I can tell you that your personality matters more then your looks and all that other jazz but to men your looks are very important.

Now here is the twist! You HAVE TO LET MEN SEE YOU! Im sure you always have a frown on your face, have your shoulders hunched and always just treading through life! THAT IS NOT YOU!

You perceive yourself as an having all of these dysmorphic body features! Your attitude does need to change, so does your outlook on life. The simple fact that you sign on as "UGLY GIRL" is so self defeating that its unbearable.

After all how can you think your beautiful of you have to constantly remind yourself your ugly to sign on! I suggest you write yourself affirmations and smile when you say them.

Just note if you dont follow my advice and say something like "That wont work" its your sub-conscious keeping you in a position of pain rather then moving you to one of power!

I suggest you read the book "Feel the fear and do it anyways by Susan jeffers" She has a chapter in the book called "Pain to power" That I think will catapult your confidence in yourself!

All the advice in the world wont help if you dont take it so please follow this as you are not the first person in the world that thinks this way infact let me tell you about my cousin!

My cousin is a 26 yr old single mother. One of the most beautiful women i have ever met. She can honestly be a model. Well one day we were talking and she told me that she goes out night after night and not one man ever approaches her. She was so very depressed. She believed that she was not pretty and that because she has a child she will never find a man. I knew there had to be an issue here or she was going to gay bars.

After we talked for hours I found out her problem she was never smiling when she went into the bars and she always wore black. Because she is SO stunning men would already be intimidated because of her beauty. I told her to wear a dress that would get peoples attention (bright color with those crystal beads on the dress) I also told her to always smile since the moment she goes in to the place until the time she leaves.

Well she called me the other day and she had to buy a new phone for all the guys that were calling me. Now she actually found a boyfriend.

See even beautiful women think the way you do. She took my advice and transitioned to an optimistic beautiful women I suggest you do the same!

Hope this helps

Live laugh and love

LLL... You couldn't be more right on the approachability aspect. ? Whether supermodel, average, or unnatractive... being a approachable, warm, sending out a light that people are welcome to enter your space makes all the difference in the world.

I had a friend once tell me that she's so hot guys are scared to approach her because they don't think their worthy. That sort of made me feel bad because I get approached often and so my thinking became (oh so they realize with me they can't fail, right? that theres no way they'd be worrrabout not being good enough for me) that I was less than her.

But I came to realize it was not because they feel like oh she's not that hot, maybe she'll go for me and it was not because my friend was hot she evoked fear of inadequecy.. it was more along the lines of: I smile, I make eye contact for a few moments when speaking with someone, I Joke around, I laugh a lot and am genuinly interested in what most people have to say about anything. She on the other hand, rolled her eyes A LOT... when people said funny things at most she'd smirk, she never talked much and was always acting like she didn't want to be anywhere she was.

Oh honey. Everyone has something that they don't like about themselves... it's almost a rite of passage or something. And when that happens, they perceive those things as a LOT worse than they really are. I, for example, have little love handles that I HATE...and every now and then I'll refer to it as my "muffin top" or my "chub" and most of the time people's responses are "You're crazy, there's barely anything there." See what I mean? And when you focus so much on what you think are your biggest flaws, it really gets in the way of things.

I have to say, a smile makes a world of difference. People pick up on vibes very easily. If people see you out, and you look like you're having fun and just enjoying life, they'll think "Wow, this chick seems cool, I should go talk to her". I'm telling ya. I always make it a point to be nice to everyone I meet, always. And when I go out with friends, I make it about being with them and having fun. Don't make it seem like your purpose of being out is to attract people. Confidence makes all the difference.

And in the meantime, throw on some makeup that you like. Get some extensions (everyone uses them now. everyone.) and/or volumizer. A Cute outfit that shows off your good attributes...you DO have them! And start a workout, not just so you look good but you'll feel awesome too. Just do it for you. Once that's done, and you feel better, it will show. I promise.

I agree with Ravsoma. Just accept how you look and move one. It ISN'T the most important thing and you'll realize it more as you get older. If you can't be the "prettiest" one, be good at something else. Learn a new sport, hobby or subject. Offer service to other people, volunteer. Get the focus off yourself, your looks, always comparing yourself to others, and on someone else who truly needs help. It will help you appreciate what you have, be happier and find out what's really important in life.

Look at all the celebrities that get tons of plastic surgery. Usually they look worse than if they'd left it alone and are they any happier??? Ten surgeries later....I don't think so!

Also, work with what you have. Get a push up bra. Learn how to have great hair or play up a great complexion. There may be a few people out there who are "beautiful" (by society's standards), but the rest of us have to work with what we have!

And you know what I've noticed is sexiest to others? Self confidence. In college, my friends who got the guys weren't necessarily the cutest--they were confident in their skin, funnny, and had fun. I had one friend who was quite chubby and she ALWAYS had boyfriends--cute ones!

I hope you can come to terms with your looks, love who you are and how you are, and enjoy college! It's such a fun time!

Now change your name! Quit thinking of yourself as Ugly Girl. Be Fun Girl or Golf Girl or Underwater Basket Weaving Girl, but get out there and quit dwelling!

Kari

Now change your name! Quit thinking of yourself as Ugly Girl. Be Fun Girl or Golf Girl or Underwater Basket Weaving Girl, but get out there and quit dwelling!

Kari[/QUOTE]

I vote for the Underwater Basket Weaving Girl name...People will be fascinated by a skill like that...