Still having body image problems?

**collegegirl2010** · 03-13-2011 06:13 PM

I never thought I'd be feeling the way I am, again. I am very self-conscious about my body. And One day on this networking site, as soon as logged in a girl posted a question about skinny Vs. Curvy women. And they way she talked in the question was as if she hated smaller women. There were many people commenting and making hateful comments like: "Ruler shaped women look like 12 year old boys", "why would any man want a boyish shape woman", "any man that likes ruler shape women are gay pedophiles.", "they are aneroxic boys","skinny women are less fertile","I don't want to be hugging a man", and etc. I really hurted to see these comments, and to know that people actually feel my figure is somewhat like a man's. I don't know why people have to uplift curvy women, but in the process bring skinny women down. Yes, it is the media's fault for displaying skinny women as the ideal body. But people don't realize in reality women want a man that loves her in her body, and most men are into curvy women and down talk the skinnier ones. Hearing those comments actually made me look in the mirror, and see my body not as feminine but more masculine. Sometimes I don't feel women enough because I've heard the term "real women have curves" so much. Though many people may see my photos and classify me as an "exception to ruler shaped women", because my legs have feminine curves part of me still wants to beat myself up about it. It's like I want to feel good about myself, but I make myself think that I have no reason to feel good. How do I get rid of this feeling?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-13-2011 07:13 PM

by collegegirl2010

As she walked past the mirror, she quickly backed up, seeing something she had never seen before.
She saw a beautiful girl growing into a woman,
She looked back at the stranger with a sweet little smirk upon her face.
It was an expression that said I am happy with me; I am finally making a change.
An expression of a very open minded brown eyed beauty,
Saying I want to learning to help others going through the same struggles I am with self-confidence.
I want to be somebody,
I want to stop hiding,
And I want to be free.
And for the first time in her life, she wanted to be loved, and most of all she wanted to remain the happy person that she is.

And that beautiful girl is me.

When in doubt, by people's cruel intentions, typing away on a Forum that allows such hurt towards someone else, whilst they laugh in the background at their cruelty, re-read your Blog

"Boys" that write like that honestly can't pick up and so, they put others down...If they were "nice" boys, the ones you are after, or "nice" girls, the ones you would be-friend, they wouldn't ever, consider writing such garbage now would they.

CW

**collegegirl2010** · 03-13-2011 08:01 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

by collegegirl2010

As she walked past the mirror, she quickly backed up, seeing something she had never seen before.
She saw a beautiful girl growing into a woman,
She looked back at the stranger with a sweet little smirk upon her face.
It was an expression that said I am happy with me; I am finally making a change.
An expression of a very open minded brown eyed beauty,
Saying I want to learning to help others going through the same struggles I am with self-confidence.
I want to be somebody,
I want to stop hiding,
And I want to be free.
And for the first time in her life, she wanted to be loved, and most of all she wanted to remain the happy person that she is.

And that beautiful girl is me.

When in doubt, by people's cruel intentions, typing away on a Forum that allows such hurt towards someone else, whilst they laugh in the background at their cruelty, re-read your Blog

"Boys" that write like that honestly can't pick up and so, they put others down...If they were "nice" boys, the ones you are after, or "nice" girls, the ones you would be-friend, they wouldn't ever, consider writing such garbage now would they.

CW

Thanks for your help! I feel a little better. You are like a mom to me. You always have the best advice!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-13-2011 08:25 PM

Another daughter huh

It's the truth, you remember your Mother saying " if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?"...

Then there is the song, "I am beautiful in every single way, words can't bring me down".

You're just a little cutey that's all...stop listening to people, they aren't worth listening to

**stressed** · 03-14-2011 02:08 AM

Don't pay attention to shallow comments posted by "boys" who don't know what a woman is and don't know how to appreciate one. We are all beautiful because we are special. Those who post such things don't think before they type, they go with the fake advertisements, the fake actresses, the image, more than the real woman. Probably because they don't know what a real woman is and can't get close to one. That's not how all people are and think and certainly not how all men are.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-14-2011 07:26 AM

This is not society trying to bring you down...it's your own ego trying to bring you down.

If I searched, I could easily find sites discussing womens shapes other than my own. I could find sites discussing skinny straight built women and the men who drool over them. I could then turn around and find sites discussion curvy voluptuous women and those that drool over them. I could find sites dedicated to obese women and find droves of men who drool over them.

To say that "men" dont like thinner less curvy girls is a generalization of an entire group of people based on what only a portion of the population thinks. You are LOOKING for reinforcement that men will not be attracted to you, so you go online looking for it....you find it...and believe that means it must be true. My point is, you could find ANYTHING to be true because everyone is different. You will find what you seek out looking for.

I have B cups. I could find sites for people who love B's. I could find sites for people who love DDD's instead.

I have cellulite. I could find site with other women who have it and men who don't mind it. I could also find sites with women who do not have it and men who are repulsed by it.

Quit turning to others for validation and reassurance. If you don't, you'll never be happy with who you are, because there is NEVER going to be just one type of woman that every man loves. There are multitudes of different body types for both women AND men. And there are people out there that love each of the body types.

**collegegirl2010** · 03-15-2011 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Another daughter huh

It's the truth, you remember your Mother saying " if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?"...

Then there is the song, "I am beautiful in every single way, words can't bring me down".

You're just a little cutey that's all...stop listening to people, they aren't worth listening to

Okay! Thanks mom!

**collegegirl2010** · 03-15-2011 03:53 PM

Originally Posted by stressed

Don't pay attention to shallow comments posted by "boys" who don't know what a woman is and don't know how to appreciate one. We are all beautiful because we are special. Those who post such things don't think before they type, they go with the fake advertisements, the fake actresses, the image, more than the real woman. Probably because they don't know what a real woman is and can't get close to one. That's not how all people are and think and certainly not how all men are.

Thanks!

**collegegirl2010** · 03-15-2011 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

This is not society trying to bring you down...it's your own ego trying to bring you down.

If I searched, I could easily find sites discussing womens shapes other than my own. I could find sites discussing skinny straight built women and the men who drool over them. I could then turn around and find sites discussion curvy voluptuous women and those that drool over them. I could find sites dedicated to obese women and find droves of men who drool over them.

To say that "men" dont like thinner less curvy girls is a generalization of an entire group of people based on what only a portion of the population thinks. You are LOOKING for reinforcement that men will not be attracted to you, so you go online looking for it....you find it...and believe that means it must be true. My point is, you could find ANYTHING to be true because everyone is different. You will find what you seek out looking for.

I have B cups. I could find sites for people who love B's. I could find sites for people who love DDD's instead.

I have cellulite. I could find site with other women who have it and men who don't mind it. I could also find sites with women who do not have it and men who are repulsed by it.

Quit turning to others for validation and reassurance. If you don't, you'll never be happy with who you are, because there is NEVER going to be just one type of woman that every man loves. There are multitudes of different body types for both women AND men. And there are people out there that love each of the body types.

Thanks! And I guess this also means I need to learn to love my body for myself regardless of what others think of me.

**jns** · 03-15-2011 10:16 PM

You are perfect the way you are. I've been with skinny, boyish figured girls and they are perfectly sexy. BTW, I like your new avatar.

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