Thread: Heavy panic attacks

Hello everyone im sorry if this is the wrong place to post this im a little stressed and confused. This is a mental health issue though.

My name is Angelo, im a 24 year old male and a christian. I need help with a girl that i care deeply about, so im asking the women.

When i was a child i was molested and my parents got divorced and i didnt really have any friends (im squashing all this together because this isnt about me right now) Anyways im completely over my issues and made a full recovery, im a very happy guy and making people laugh and feel good about themselves is my speciality, it makes me happy doing those things for people especially girls who feel bad.

Every girl I have ever been with or girl that wanted to be with me had attempted suicide in her life do to sexual assault from childhood. It just happens that way, i feel that God wants me to help them. My ex-fiance was a rape survivor, when i met her she was a complete mess. Through the years i helped her to recover fully because i love to help girls and from my own past I understand how it feels to some degree. Oh by the way I have 5 younger sisters so I have this automatic big brother instinct and thats why I like to help girls... anyways...

At this stage in my life its extremely easy for me to identify girls who have been molested or raped, I can pick things up in speach patterns and body language that are common to survivors. I try help as best i can.

Recently I have fallen for a girl and her for me, and yes all the signs of abuse were there. We are not dating yet for private reasones, needless to say im waiting for her to be ready for a relationship. Last night i confronted her in love, i told her about my past and how it affected me. My intentions were to get her to open up to me because she is suffering badly. She told me about her past and she said she was also molested when she was younger like i had thought. Her father is an alcoholic (it wasnt him) and her mother is so worn down from having a hard life. I believe that i have the ability to help her through it with Gods help and now she is already a much happier person, but the problem comes in here..

She suffers from really intense anxiety and panic attacks, she told me this morning that last night it came at about midnight and lasted 2 hours! 2 hours!!! She says it starts with an intense fear in her heart, its difficult to breath, she cries non-stop and she shakes as if having a seizure. Usually they come at night when she tries to sleep, she is constantly tired and her emotions are a bit unstable. The day after telling me all this, i asked if she slept ok, she told me to never bring it up again, that she doesnt want any help and i should forget she ever mentioned it, she doesnt want me to worry about her or become protective.

So what am i supposed to do now am i just supposed to let her suffer because she doesnt want help, its not in my nature to let someone i care about suffer like that. I so deeply want to help her but i fear that if i try she will block me off and our love will die. I told her that if she ever needs me il be there for her, she can call or ask me to come over or anything. She said that she appreciates it and she would let me know if she needs anything but i no shes not going to let me know. I need help, i cant let her suffer but i cant pressure her either. Will leaving her alone really help her or am i supposed to help somehow even if she didnt ask? I dont want to be stuck in a catch22 situation where if i help she leaves me or if i do nothing she leaves me. Pls help girls...