What to do if my neighbor seems strange?

**collegegirl2010** · 07-17-2010 05:23 PM

Sorry if I posted this in the wrong forum, didn't know where to post it...

Ok, my next door neighbor is always outside looking at me when I walk up and down my driveway...He like walks to the fence and just stares, he doesn't even try to hide the fact that he's looking. It really creeps me out. I hate the attention, I wish he'd just leave me alone. And a couple times he spoke to me, it sounded like he was saying "hey, sexy" but I didn't want to make the wrong interpertation. So I just speak and go in the house. One time my sister even caught him staring at me. I try to ignore him, but everytime I come outside he's always looking...I don't go outside as much as I use to though, because of that. I really want to go outside because I like to get my daily jog in for my health sake, But it's hard to enjoy my jog in peace...I haven't told my dad, because I don't want to start any confusion. What should I do? Should I tell my dad?

btw, my neighbor is like 20 or 21...I don't know if I should do something about it, or if it's just the fact that he's a man and just doing what men do (look at females). Someone please help, tell me what to do...

**PJhavinfunagain** · 07-17-2010 05:40 PM

I would talk to your parents. They should respect your feelings. The fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough. Not saying they can do anything but they should know.

**jns** · 07-17-2010 06:13 PM

Give him an icy stare when he speaks to you then ignore him. Most certainly tell your father about him and have your father observe the interaction without the neighbor knowing about it. More risky, record what he says. Get a picture to give to the police if necessary. Threats to record conversations or pictures may up the ante. If you do get them, don't make it observable.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-17-2010 06:32 PM

collegegirl,

You've had the Forum let you know you do not look boyish, you look great...

Guys will always look at girls. But, if your staring back at him staring because he's staring, then it's possible that he may think you like him..

Say it out loud... "Quit staring please" and look away immediately and go about your life.

What I am worried about though is the different threads your writing...

It's as though you don't have confidence in your looks, yet, you do think your sexy and cool

That's on your profile.. But your also not sure about things in general with guys and this may have stemmed from the incident in the bus, causing confusion.

Can, you tell us if your parents were told about that? You don't mention a Mother are you close to her? How old is your Sister?

And, surely this would have affected you, did you ever see anyone about it, professionally?

From that thread you were 13 and your now 17, posing the question if it was wrong.. I'm concerned for that, and I think you need to talk about it to someone.

CW

**collegegirl2010** · 07-17-2010 06:42 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

collegegirl,

You've had the Forum let you know you do not look boyish, you look great...

Guys will always look at girls. But, if your staring back at him staring because he's staring, then it's possible that he may think you like him..

Say it out loud... "Quit staring please" and look away immediately and go about your life.

What I am worried about though is the different threads your writing...

It's as though you don't have confidence in your looks, yet, you do think your sexy and cool

That's on your profile.. But your also not sure about things in general with guys and this may have stemmed from the incident in the bus, causing confusion.

Can, you tell us if your parents were told about that? You don't mention a Mother are you close to her? How old is your Sister?

And, surely this would have affected you, did you ever see anyone about it, professionally?

From that thread you were 13 and your now 17, posing the question if it was wrong.. I'm concerned for that, and I think you need to talk about it to someone.

CW

I do feel a little confused sometimes...sometimes I feel confident, but sometimes I don't, and I'm always feeling depressed for no reason at all. I'm always tired even if I do get 8 hours of sleep, I'm really confused about my life. And I made a mistake and put 17 lol, I actually turned 18 on the 10th of this month, I sometimes forget that I'm 18 not use to it yet...And no I haven't told my parents. My mother and I are a little close, but not close enough for me to tell her something like that. And my sister is 23, I told her that it happened, but I didn't go into detail about it...Thanks for being concerned, I love talking to people that care about me and how I feel...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-17-2010 06:49 PM

Well, the way I look at this is like well, this

Your not close enough with anyone in your family to open up and talk about things and so you keep them to yourself.

At 18, you want to be pretty and you want boys to like you, look at you, but also you have a fear of it, because of what happened when you were 13..

If your depressed, and tired. You may be suffering from cronic fatigue, which could be caused by closing off and keeping things to yourself, the stress of that..

It's not a good thing, at 18 to not be sure, to not be able to read the signs, due to what happened to you at 13, it will always keep you guarded over boys/men and will give you more of a headache

How to you interact with the boys at school? Do you shy away from talking to them, or are you at ease, talking to them, just find it hard to talk to anyone older than you and have a fear of that.

You say you sleep for 8 hrs, but do you sleep or do you toss and turn.

You would be best to seek Doctor's support so you have someone to open up to talk to and therefore, someone to help get it all out, understand it and put it all behind you, whilst at the same time, understanding what to be wary of and what not to be wary of. You have to live a normal life, you can't be wondering and be scared, every time a boy looks at you that is older than you...

CW

**collegegirl2010** · 07-17-2010 07:24 PM

I actually find it quite easy to talk to guys as friends...but If it's a guy that I like or that likes me, I tend to be a little shy/nervous around them. Mostly I do fall asleep, but sometimes I toss and turn, I've had a couple 'sleep paralysis' situations in the past years. And I find it easier to talk to people on here than people that I'm close to, mainly because you're less judgemental than people that are closer to me...And I want to seek help, but don't know what my parents will think of me seeing a professional/counselor.