Thread: Please help me

Originally Posted by Sad_and dirty

I am a 17 year old girl.Recently my 18 year old brother did a very disgusting action to me,he molested me while i was asleep i feel ashamed about it.I told my mother about it but she did not know what to do and still act like normal.I feel extremely dirty and i do not dare to sleep at night as i fear that my brother will molest me again.I remembered this is not the first time he molested me,when i was 14 he rub himself on me,i feel very upset about this and i feel like i want to end it all.i don't know what to do about it and i feel very dirty and disgusting about my body i feel used and i start to don't trust males at all.I am very scared and confused about this.I cry every night and when my brother is near me i start to remember what he did to me.Somebody please help me.

I am glad that you told your Mother, ask her if she has spoken to your brother, your Father...

This is a situation where you have to be strong do not talka about wanting to end it all, he abused you, you didn't ask for it, you need to be strong and YELL out loud in front of your Mother, DO NOT TOUCH ME SEXUALLY EVER AGAIN..

This is not going to be easy but it will ensure that you have spoken, and it will shock your Mother and make her realise the reality, she is more than likely in shock...

I know of an exact situation to this, very close to home...same age, but she was told of other occurances that she didn't remember much later in life....it made her cry...and be confused. and she assessed her life and why she had trouble bonding in relationships.

Your Mother needs to get you into councelling over this....and if she isn't going to listen, then who do you trust? Your Grandmother? Someone that can explain what insest does to siblings and how it will affect you..

I can tell you that you are not alone.

And, I will ask you to TELL your Mother that you want a lock on your door as well for the time being, this is not the solution as you need to NOT live in fear but for the time being you also need to be able to sleep and not think about committing suicide and work through this with a therapist...

You know, by speaking out loud, and saying IT'S WRONG, YOU ABUSED ME, I AM NOT AT FAULT, will be a good first step to do, hense why I suggest you say all you want to as loud as you want to , to him, in front of your Mother, because she already knows and she is there, he can't hurt you...

Please come back to your post, keep talking to us...

CW