I don't like to be touched, is this normal?

**sallyskellington** · 05-09-2011 08:51 AM

I hate being touched whether it be friend family member, or so. It makes me want to break their ing face. Is this common? Normal?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-09-2011 09:14 AM

Some people are very protective of their personal space. With that said, I don't think any desire to invoke violence on another person for simple day to day acts, like a pat on the shoulder is healthy.

There are most likely times when this worse for you than other times?

**KMonte85** · 05-09-2011 09:18 AM

Well, I know a lot of people that aren't fond of being touched. I'm one of them .. I'm a big proponent of personal space and I don't like it when I get touched all the time either... family is ok, but I like my space. I am just naturally not touchy feely and don't need or want a lot of it.

I don't think there's a lot wrong with not being a touchy feely person. But if you're seriously wanting to deck someone in the mouth for putting a hand on you (embracingly, obviously), well, that is an extreme which I would say is not a normal reaction. Especially if it is someone you know pretty well and you are fond of otherwise...

**WildChild** · 05-09-2011 09:30 AM

Depends on the person. Some people I don't even want very close to me, sometimes its not because I don't like them but because I feel they like me in a way I won't reciprocate, so I don't want to open any doors to misunderstanding. I'm generally a hugger but there are a couple men I know that I don't hug because there is a level of mutual attraction there and I don't want to fan any flames (that's about me, not them).
It depends on someone's energy, what I feel from them.
In general I love to be touched and petted.

**sallyskellington** · 05-09-2011 11:17 AM

I am ok with my husband for the most part but I just find that other then from him I find myself getting angry when people touch me even people close tO me, idk I just kinda wanna be left alone

**sungoddesschelsy** · 05-09-2011 12:56 PM

I can relate, I very much enjoy my own person bubble

Family is alright but even then I shy away from most of them.

Although if I'm in a relationship I cannot get enough of touching and being touched.

**sallyskellington** · 05-09-2011 01:06 PM

I just it makes me so angry I wanna knock them out

**KMonte85** · 05-09-2011 01:30 PM

anything in particular about it that makes you so enraged? Is it the personal space thing? Or can you actually not stand the physical sensation of being touched?

Have you asked these people to respect your space? Wouldn't want you going to jail cuz someone tapped you on the shoulder to ask you a question...

**sallyskellington** · 05-09-2011 02:20 PM

It's not the sensation it's like an anger that wells up inside me when it happens and I don't know why

**kristalyn_04** · 05-09-2011 02:35 PM

Sally, how are your relationships with people in general? Are you uncomfortable having personal connections with others? Physical touch is a way of establishing personal connection with someone, and if that makes you uncomfortable, then it's understandable that you wouldn't like to be touched.

I used to have social anxiety when I was younger, I had a problem with trust and letting anyone get too close to me emotionally. Because of that, I was also very uncomfortable with people touching me because that established a personal connection which I did not like. I didn't have an angry punch-your-face-in type of reaction, I just pulled away and felt uncomfortable. Your reaction is different but the cause could be the same, which is something you could explore and perhaps work on.