Thread: *Note*

Glad to see you back. I actually just PM'd you asking where you'd been. I won't smother you with "I'm sorry"'s....but I will say that talking about this will help you get through it. We are here for the good, we are here for the bad, we are here for the highs, and we are here for the lows. Grieving is very important, it's a necessity in times like this. I'm glad to see that you are embracing that and understand that in order to be able to move past it, you have to allow it to happen. You know that we are here for you and WANT to hear you talk through what you're feeling, regardless of what that is. There is no shame here. *hugs*

I'm glad to see you are reaching out for support, AA. I've been reading your threads, though I haven't responded much. I hope your family and close friends are supporting you as well, and you know we wish you all the best. You will be ok.

I'm also glad to see you back. May I offer this... It wasn't too long ago that you weren't sure if you'd want to be a mother, but now you know you have excellent maternal instincts. Another thing is that you found the courage to tell the father about your pregnancy, and you were even willing to risk your relationship with your parents to inform them, even though you could have gone out of the country to get an abortion. It turned out that you are far stronger than you thought.

It's completely understandable that you now feel upset and numb, and I hope you will share more about your feelings. Some women consider it a taboo subject and feel as though a miscarriage is somehow a failure on their part, but that's not true, they haven't done anything wrong and have absolutely no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed.

I didn't mean to sound un-greatful by asking for no aplogies or sympathy. It's simply because I don't want to remember this as a sad time. In the short time I carried my baby boy, I felt more love and happiness then than I ever had before in my life.

I want to remember that love and happiness, and not any bad memories that I try to put to the back of my mind or try block out.
Over time I'll come more to terms with it, and I want to be able to talk openly and happily about it.