Thread: Moms been in hospital for 10 days

I feel sick to my stomach.
I am so worried, I am so scared.

I wanted to see my mom today, and she told us not to go see her because she is in "bad shape"

I want to see her, but I am scared too.

What do I do?

She can't die on us now

This all happen way too fast.

What is going on?

Why is my mom not telling us anything. I feel sick to my stomach, I can't lose her. This is crazy!


She won't even tell us what is exactly wrong with her! Everytime I ask her what tests shes had done, she says I dont know.

I think she has severe pneumonia. (((( I am seriouslyl freaking out right now I am so scared....

Hi scared. I totally understand why you're scared and what you're going through. My mom developed a rare pneumonia several years ago. She went from being this vibrant healthy woman, to waking up with fever so high it caused the inside of her mouth to peel. It was so severe that cold cloths on her head didn't stay cold for even seconds. A chest xray showed one lung totally full other than a clear spot about the size of a fist. They couldn't believe she hadn't even felt sick up until that point and said the stuff had to have been growing in there for a long time. They ran test after test and put her on all sorts of antibiotics with no avail. Finally, they were able to test some of the phlegm she coughed up, and determined she had a strand of a mycobacterium. Once they ruled out tuberculosis and took her out of quarantine, they were able to find an antibiotic that finally began to clear up her lungs.

It took her around 6 months to fully heal, with constant antibiotics. Her body was so septic and in such shock from the experience that she lost a tremendous amt of her hair. Fortunately, she healed nicely, and now it's as if it never happened.

Some pneumonia's are fungal rather than bacterial and therefore have to be treated differently.

The frustrating part with your mom is when they don't know what it is causing it. Perhaps she won't tell you exactly what's wrong with her because she doesn't know. Have they done a chest xray?

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

Hi scared. I totally understand why you're scared and what you're going through. My mom developed a rare pneumonia several years ago. She went from being this vibrant healthy woman, to waking up with fever so high it caused the inside of her mouth to peel. It was so severe that cold cloths on her head didn't stay cold for even seconds. A chest xray showed one lung totally full other than a clear spot about the size of a fist. They couldn't believe she hadn't even felt sick up until that point and said the stuff had to have been growing in there for a long time. They ran test after test and put her on all sorts of antibiotics with no avail. Finally, they were able to test some of the phlegm she coughed up, and determined she had a strand of a mycobacterium. Once they ruled out tuberculosis and took her out of quarantine, they were able to find an antibiotic that finally began to clear up her lungs.

It took her around 6 months to fully heal, with constant antibiotics. Her body was so septic and in such shock from the experience that she lost a tremendous amt of her hair. Fortunately, she healed nicely, and now it's as if it never happened.

Some pneumonia's are fungal rather than bacterial and therefore have to be treated differently.

The frustrating part with your mom is when they don't know what it is causing it. Perhaps she won't tell you exactly what's wrong with her because she doesn't know. Have they done a chest xray?

Hi everyone, thank you so much for your replies. I really appreciate everyones help.

The big problem is, my mom doesn't tell us ("kids") anything that is happening!

She doesn't tell us what tests she has had done, she doesn't tell us if she has been diagnosed with anything, she just doesn't tell us anything.

She doesn't want to worry us, scare us, and she doesn't wanna traumatize my 13 year old sister.

So I don't know what exactly to do.

Everytime I want to visit her, she says "don't come today, I am sick"

I really wanna go visit her, but I am SCARED to.... you know what I mean? I'm so scared.

:/ Why doesn't she want us to see her? WHY?

Well next time I visit her, I'm going to give her all this stuff you guys are telling me to do, I plan on visiting her tomorrow while my little sister is in school, but I just hope she doesn't say "dont visit me" It's just scary. (

I want to see her healthy.


And I've been scared of doctors for a very long time, its hard for me to trust them, and I don't trust the medicines because they have a lot of other side effects. I think there is a natural remedy for everything, I just don't think the government wants us to know about it, because they make so much money off of us.

The problem is I don't really know much (( I don't know , and she wont tell us.

She started out with a headache, vomiting, turned into shortness of breath, and hard time breathing , with heavy coughing

Shes very weak too, won't tell us much, and doesn't want us to visit her.

Yes, that's very frustrating for her not to tell you all anything. Perhaps she's afraid you will "freak out" and worry yourself sick, and she needs you to be strong for the younger ones? How old are you?

At the same time, you have a right to know what's going on with your moms health. A legal right? No. But your mom owes it to you to give you some sort of feedback. "Don't come visit, I'm sick", isn't good enough. If it were me, I'd be there whether she wanted me there or not. And I'd calmly have a heart to heart with her, "Mom, I need to be strong for the kids right now, but in order to not worry myself literally sick I need to at least have an idea of what's going on with you." Stand firm to that. Tell her if it were you, she'd want to know and that you'd respect that and tell her.

Of course you're worried sick. But you need to be strong for mom right now. Seeing someone you love sick and in the hospital is hard, but put on your "big girl britches" so to speak and go in there with your head high. If something happened to mom, you'd never regret visiting her. Perhaps you could think of something she likes, (magazines? snacks? etc) and take her a few "cheer up" items. Does she have anyone else in her life that is visiting her or that she's talking to?

Hi thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it.
I'm 24 years old.

I really want to know what is going on, but I am also afraid to find out. (

It's not easy. I want to think positive, that she will be coming home soon, but then I am like "what if this happens, what if that" ect ect.

I'm just worried, and this is a lot of stress for me to go through right now, I had to drop out of college to take care of my little sister, and its very hard.

I am scared , I don't know what is causing these fevers (

What happen with your mom? How did she recover? Can you tell me the process she went through?

Im just trying to see if the symptoms match.

First, get yourself back in college. Your moms only been ill for 2 weeks, dropping out is premature. You can make it work girlfriend. Lots of women with 2 and 3 kids go to college and work full time jobs.

Second, your moms symptoms may totally match my moms but she may have something totally different. The only way to truly know, is to be there with her when she's interacting with the doctors, ask her questions etc. My mom said looking back on it she had some mild shortness of breath at times but nothing alarming. She felt totally normal and then one day got deathly ill with incredibly high fever. Next day she went to the doctor barely able to move and he did the chest xray and immediately admitted her into the hospital. She was then put in quarantine as they had no idea what kind of pneumonia she had. Once they ruled out Tuberculosis, they moved her into a regular room and started her on antibiotics. None of them were working to clear up her lungs so they continued running tests. They tried doing a scope to get some of the "stuff" out of her lungs to test but had no luck. Finally after days of breathing treatments and hard core antibiotics, she coughed up enough of something for them to test. They sent it off to the lab and several days later, confirmed it was a mycobacterium. Then they could get her on the right meds. 2 weeks later she got to come home but it took several months of healing.

Let me tell you this....... my dad died as a result of medical negligence when I was 17, in the SAME hospital my mom later had to be in for the pneumonia. I thought I'd die having to see her there, having to trust those people again, walking through those same halls, I literally didn't think I'd make it. But, even living an hr away, I drove down every evening after work, sat with her, rubbed her back, brought her special things to eat, books to read, girlie items to make her feel better. In other words, my love for her overshadowed my fears and my anger over what that hospital did in the past. They treated her like a queen and truly she couldn't have gotten better care. So yes, we can all mistrust doctors sometimes, no one is asking you to trust them, but this isn't about you. It's about mom. So get in there and find out what's going on and let her know that YOU are strong enough to handle whatever it is and be right by her side.

Keep us posted!