Does anyone believe that a person can be FAKE?

**lovelovelove** · 03-25-2011 08:40 PM

Or should i say a person having two- faces (not-literally) , three- faces.
If someone can act one way in front of one person no matter who it is, and then act another way in front of another person i would consider FAKE, or two- faced.
Am i wrong or do i take it out of context when i think that way?

**ItsASecret** · 03-25-2011 08:52 PM

Depends. I have a general distaste for people, I cannot sit in a conversation very often and care about what is being said so I will fake my way through it with emotions and nodding in order to end the conversation. I am entirely fake in those situations, however if I find something that does peak some interest I will be more involved with that person in conversation and enjoy the conversation so again I am totally different. If I generally dislike someone as a person, I will treat them vastly different than someone I enjoy being around. So I guess in those regards someone can be sort of two faced if that is how someone wants to describe them. I think it is more dependent on the situations as everyone can act differently to every person they meet you know?

If this is a matter of teenage drama (not saying it is I am saying the words "fake" and "two faced" are a common reference in that age group) then it can be attributed to simple immaturity and it shall pass.

**lovelovelove** · 03-26-2011 01:31 PM

Ok i understand that, and no i am actually referring to a 48 year old women. As long as the person you do not like is not under the impression you do like them then i do not consider it fake. As long as you tell the person you are not interesting in anything they have to say then you are what i like to call "keeping it real" if you do not tell them and you are faking your way through the conversation then that is "fake" or in other words "sugar-coating" -what you really believe, think, or feel.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-26-2011 02:44 PM

Thank god I am 47 and 3/4 or else I would be asking you "are you talking about me?"

Only joking.

Well, if she is "nice" to your face but you know that's not the case, as you have heard for instance a rumor she doesn't really like you, then she is "being nice", for the sake of keeping it civil....

But, if she blatently is nice to you, smiles and all and really disses you behind your back, then I would say that is definately two faced,

Then there is an appearance to gain acceptance from everyone around you as a nice person but behind closed doors a different person....the real person, that's hiding deliberately behind what a person is really like, not wanting others to see the real person, deceitful....

**ItsASecret** · 03-26-2011 04:43 PM

Also have to take into account the context of when that person talks to you. If it is in a group of people maybe they do not want to turn it into a big scene so they choose not to be rude or crude to someone they dislike as to not disrupt the others around. So in that sense you can really loath someone but put on a fake smile to please the crows around for the sake of not causing a commotion.

**miffed23** · 04-21-2011 11:34 AM

People that are fake are in fear of letting themselves seem weak. Fakeness occurs when we dont want to let others down, my mother is constantly told by those who love and know her that she is fake around people that she doesnt particularly like and her response is that she doesnt want to be rude or upset anyone. I can understand this. If you are 'yourself' around the important people in your life, I dont see anything wrong with being two faced so not to upset and be rude to others. As long as you dont then go around taking rudely about the person in question.

**MarkT** · 04-21-2011 12:58 PM

My sister is manic depressive and has the thing where she is either estatic(sp) or crying her eyes out. Can't remember the medical term... She is the most 2 faced person I have ever met. I have nothing to do with her at all. Both of my divorces, she buddied right up to them and told them everything I was doing, where I was. It was a nightmare and it ran off so many women for me that I moved to a different town far enough and big enough she couldn't find me.

So, to answer your question, Yes- unfortunately there are people like that.

**christ91** · 06-02-2011 11:01 PM

we all are fake dear..in some way or the other....... its the truth i guess....
we all pretend to be some one else..... we have 25 faces in 24hours!!!

**ccraig42** · 06-02-2011 11:03 PM

Hmm...I never pretend to be someone else. I like me.

**Beckers** · 08-13-2011 12:04 AM

Originally Posted by miffed23

People that are fake are in fear of letting themselves seem weak. Fakeness occurs when we dont want to let others down, my mother is constantly told by those who love and know her that she is fake around people that she doesnt particularly like and her response is that she doesnt want to be rude or upset anyone. I can understand this. If you are 'yourself' around the important people in your life, I dont see anything wrong with being two faced so not to upset and be rude to others. As long as you dont then go around taking rudely about the person in question.

I also do this to avoid hurting people and to avoid unnecessary conflict. I will confront someone if I need to, but thats very very rare. I will be straight with my loved ones and important people in my life, but strangers and people I rarely communicate with aren't worth it to say something. It's much easier to fake your way through your communication with them and not start any issues or drama.