It seems every time my boyfriend and I have sex I end up tearing a little bit and I don't really understand why that is. I mean there is plenty of foreplay, so I know my vagina is "loosened" up, I'm never dry, and its not as though my boyfriend is excessively large or anything. So I just don't get why everytime we have sex I tear.

Also I tend to bleed almost everytime we have sex, now we've been doing it for months and I would have hoped by now we would have "popped the cherry" and I would have been fine, but after 7 moths I still bleed and I don't think its just from tearing.

Also I know that people say after sex you are supposed to go urinate, but I am never able to go, the only problem I have with this is that the next day I constantly feel like I have to go. I mean sometimes I am able to go normally through out the day but then there are other times when it just burns like I have to pee sooo bad. The first couple times I was so scared that I may have ended up with a urinary tract or bladder infection, but it is not usually something that last more than a day or two tops after we've had sex.


It's all really starting to frustrate me because we both really enjoy sex, and when I feel like this for 2 days afterwards its just annoying. If someone could help I would be so appreciative I feel like I'm a total freak and the only one who has these problems.

Thanks so much

you are not the only one who is experiencing tearing. remember that the vagina, just like every other part of our body consists of muscles and skin. Just so happen your muscles are more tight than other womens'. considered yourself blessed. Many women are doing kegal exercises to become tighter.
Lubricants are always recommended but you say your not having a problem in that area. Are you sure you are relaxed when you are having sex? I found out that I was having pain during sex for years because inever allowed my body to relax. I would be so tense because i was expecting the pain, and it came everytime.
once i got with my man who took his time with me and gave me time to relax, i was just fine.
you must go to a specialist who can give you medical advice based on results from other patients with similar problems. A gynecologist is always the best person to talk to, and a urologist to analyze this pattern that you are having.