Can SUmone Plz talk to me,,

**gina13** · 07-22-2009 06:44 AM

im a virgin,, never been to the gyno b4,, and i really cant afford to right now,, but im kinda freaked out,, bc every once in a while,, i get discharge that is strange,, its um,, has pieces like,, i cant really explain,, and ive seen a picture of a yeast infection,, and its similar to that but ive had it b4,, and then it just goes away,, i realized it yesterday that it was like that,, and now im worried,,, cuz it doesnt hurt it doesnt ich, no odor or anything like that,,, ,, and it has happened b4, but it went away,, um im supposed to have my period next week ,, could that b the cause of it,, possibly????,,, if it is a yeast infection are there any home remedies rather than things over the counter,,, if anyone can please respond id really appreciate it thank you

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-23-2009 03:59 PM

Go to a Chemist if you can't get to a gynochologist at this point and explain what you've written here and see what they suggest.

Each female bodies are different, each suffer something different and if someone can not reply but has read your thread, it's because they don't know the answer...

If it is a yeast infection then you can try natural yoghurt.

If you have had it before and it has gone away, then it's not an urgent issue rather an un-comfortable issue.

I also suggest you forgoe purchasing something this week and next and attend a Doctor so that you know exactly what it is, seeing as you've had it before, you need to get it under control in-case it's something that may cause you grief in other areas of your life, such as re-productive...

CW

**WildChild** · 07-23-2009 05:29 PM

If there is no burning, itching or discomfort, it may well be just part of your vagina's natural way of cleansing itself. Arousal will bring increased wetness in the vagina and that flows to the labia, this has nothing to do with being a virgin.

If this changes and you start to experience any itching, burning or pain then talk to your parents about seeing a doc for a possible bacterial or yeast infection.

**gina13** · 07-24-2009 03:41 PM

thank you for talking to me ,, sorry if i seem like hyper or y,, just very stressed with things, and then this happens,, so thank you

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-24-2009 03:44 PM

glad you came back, gina, we could feel the stress lol...

Let us know if any of the advice above helped and what are you so stressed about?

CW

**gina13** · 07-24-2009 04:11 PM

LOL u could feel the stress huh lmaooo, well wat ive been doin is just eatin yougurt,, cuz i talked to sumone else as well,, and they said to wait cuz im bout due for my girly time lol,, and it doesnt bother me or anything,, its just that one lil problem,, lol, it seems to b clearing up ,, so im just like ok,, lol,, and well im havin alot of problems,, like i have this boyfriend,, for ove seven months now,, but ive had to keep it a secret from my parents,, cuz i met him on myspace,, and wasnt supposed to have a myspace,, (my father still dont know ) lol,, but i actually really do care for him and love him,, but i was banned from being with him,, cuz my father caught me talkin to him,, and he is over protective lol,, and he wasnt wearing a shirt at the time,, so thats why i was banned,, but we still u kow stayed together,, and i always found a way to talk to him,, and i snuck him over my house lol,, yes i kow that is bad lol, only three times,, and he had to leave for florida to b with family,, , and he wants me to come down there and live with him,, and leave my family,, bc as it stands right now,, the relationship between me and my father,, well its pretty much ceased,,,, so if i dont go down to florida,, i lose my bf/ fiance,, lol,, no ring yet,, i feel like a really bad daughter and gurlfriend for everything that has happened,, and im just stressed out completely everyday,, and bc of all the stress i have a really hard to control temper,, so appoligize, its aloot going on lol,, and im still supposed to b lookin to get into a college sumwhere lol,, im like crazed,, oh and another thing that bothers me is that bc i hardly talk to my parents i dont go out,, at all,, bc i cant leave with out them,, even just to go to a mall,, i just recently started takin drivin lessons,, but b4 that, i was in the house for months,, and never went out,,, so now i take my lesson and come right back home,, very stressed

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-24-2009 04:21 PM

Oh my... lol...

See, I can't answer that or else I will sound like a "Mother"..

It's tough being a kid... following rules..... maybe they are over protective, or maybe they know your personality and worry, that being that your outgoing and so they get scared.

My parents "wrapped me in cotton wool" when i was a teenager as well... Didn't go anywhere either... They tell me now or later in life, they told me, that they were just trying to protect me.

Your boyfriend/fiance to be, he wants you to go to college and have a good eductation doesn't he? So you both can succeed... What does he want to do/be?

You may have to ask him to hold off for a bit love, or else if you get up and run away and have no career to follow, no jobs, no money, you both are going to have a more stressful life lol.

Seriously.

CW

**gina13** · 07-24-2009 04:34 PM

lol its ok if you sound like a mother lol,, no i completely understand what the consequences are of everythng,, and he does want me to go to school,, i would like to become a pilot he is about to start school to become an emt,, right now he is working in a hospital he is gettin a good salary for it,, im actually nervous about everythin,, and i dont want to lose him or anythin,, but its pretty much either i leave or he does,, and no he isnt a bad guy for sayin it,, cuz he has waited all this time for me,, u no,, and i put him thro alot with this whole situation,, and its just like i pretty much messed up everything,, with everyone,, two men,, lol my father and him,, both makin me crazy ,, cuz i love them so much u no lol,,, and i dont want to hurt either of them,, but it seems thats all ive really been doing,, so it sucks,,, im just lost for everything,, my bf,, he just wants to protect me and care for me,, just everything is just really hard,, and everytime,, me and my father get into an argument,, he is like its BC OF THAT BOY!! isnt it lol,, im like NO!! and lookin the other way lol,, jk, it isnt always about him lol,,

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-24-2009 05:20 PM

There was another thread once here, pretty simular where the posters suggested that basically that the "parent" still viewed the daughter as a child..

It was suggested that the "child" speak to the parent as an adult and squash all the fears that they have.

In-other-words, your Dad may think you'll end up pregnant and not achieve school, or become that pilot that you want.

He may feel that one boy, there will be another, instead of acknowledging that you actually are a good team, you and this guy and that he doesn't want to spoil anything that you wish to achieve in life, rather support.

It's hard to let go of the apron strings.

How far away will college be to where your boyfriend will be living?

If he loves you maybe he can accept a bit of long distance and Dad maybe should accept a compromise of this relationship..

Perhaps you have to become an Adult and discuss this properly with him instead of seeing him as a Dad and therefore, not telling him things, such as My-Space, etc....

He may not see what you see, because you've never sat him down and laid it out how you actually feel about life , school, love etc...

Hard call but one that at least if you have done it and it doesn't work, then at least you have explained your side anyway.. Not much to lose there I don't think.

CW

**WildChild** · 07-24-2009 05:46 PM

How old are you? Do you have a job? Driver's licence? Car?
Don't move just for a bf, that puts you in a very bad position if it doesn't work out. You need to be certain that you can support yourself and continue your education where ever you are.