Hymen Problems?

laswell89 · 10-28-2009, 03:36 PM

Hi, I'm new to the boards. I'm almost 21 yrs old and I have never had sex or used a tampon before. I have tried both several times to no avail. I have looked at myself using a mirror and it seems that my hymen is just almost entirely closing off my vaginal opening. I have a period every month, so I know that their is an opening there for menstrual blood to flow through, but apparently this is not enough for larger things to penetrate me. I am currently in a serious relationship and really want to have sex. I would also love to finally be able to use tampons. I really hate this entire situation!

I don't know if there is any way to break my hymen and make pentration easier on my own? I feel pretty uncomfortable when I try to put a tampon in or try to insert even a single finger. I can only get a tampon in about an inch before it starts to hurt. I'm wondering if there's a way I can fix this problem on my own or if it's possible that a gynecologist could break it for me if I asked? I have never had a pelvic exam.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-29-2009, 01:59 AM

Welcome to the Forum

Keep experimenting with a little finger when your not on your periods obviously, you have to be moist inside and maybe when you get your period, there's not much flow and therefore, it hurts because your dry inside.. You can try a little lube on the tampon and see if that helps you get it in as well.

Some women are very tight until they have sex, this seriously isn't un-common at all, all you can do is take your time, use a little lube and start from there sweet.

CW

laswell89 · 11-03-2009, 07:59 PM

Thank you for the reply, it was helpful!

I've been told it hurts and you bleed the first time you have sex if your hymen isn't broken. Is this true? I'm nervous about the pain. And how much do you actually bleed when it breaks?

**echoskybound** · 11-03-2009, 10:49 PM

Please see a doctor before trying sex or tampons. I'm a little nervous about this subject because I had a very terrible experience with my hymen. The first time I used a tampon it went in fine, but when it became saturated and expanded, it wouldn't come out. After painfully tugging at it desperately, I looked in a mirror and saw a band of flesh stretched across my vagina holding the tampon in - it was my hymen, which was apparently deformed and had a septum shape instead of the normal flap of skin. It was extremely thick, so I couldn't tear it, and went right across the center of the opening, making it impossible to get the tampon out. I had to have the hymen surgically removed.

Even after having it removed, I still bleed sometimes during sex from minor tearing. Some people are just tight and it takes a while to loosen the skin around the area. I never sued tampons again until after having sex because I was still afraid of them. Sex doesn't all have to be done at once... take it slowly, go a little bit farther at a time. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I don't have sex for a long time, he can only get it in a little bit before it hurts to much and we have to try again the next day. It's a bit of a pain, but not horrible.

laswell89 · 11-04-2009, 03:54 PM

Thank you for your reply.

I am not sure that I have the septum shape you are referring to... I can't see any "band" across the center, just a general skin type thing that seems to cover most of the opening. Surgically removed? That doesn't sound good. What you said about sex does make me feel better though... I will definitely have my boyfriend take it slow at first. I'm hoping it doesn't hurt too much!

**echoskybound** · 11-08-2009, 01:04 AM

I hope my resposne wasn't scary or anything... lol. I think my case is rare and I doubt women need to have their hymens surgically removed very often. Apparently there are rare cases of multiple holes in the hymen, or no opening at all. Yours sounds like the normal shape, just a little bit bigger. Tampons hurt for a lot of people - it helps a lot to put some lubricant on yourself and the tampon first, and it has to go in at the right angle. Sometimes it still hurts a lot for me if I'm not doing it right. If you can get it in an inch, that means it's getting through your hymen - however, it may hurt coming back out since it expands. But you can get slender ones that should be easier.

10-28-2009, 03:36 PM	#1
laswell89 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Hymen Problems? Hi, I'm new to the boards. I'm almost 21 yrs old and I have never had sex or used a tampon before. I have tried both several times to no avail. I have looked at myself using a mirror and it seems that my hymen is just almost entirely closing off my vaginal opening. I have a period every month, so I know that their is an opening there for menstrual blood to flow through, but apparently this is not enough for larger things to penetrate me. I am currently in a serious relationship and really want to have sex. I would also love to finally be able to use tampons. I really hate this entire situation! I don't know if there is any way to break my hymen and make pentration easier on my own? I feel pretty uncomfortable when I try to put a tampon in or try to insert even a single finger. I can only get a tampon in about an inch before it starts to hurt. I'm wondering if there's a way I can fix this problem on my own or if it's possible that a gynecologist could break it for me if I asked? I have never had a pelvic exam.

10-29-2009, 01:59 AM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,910 Blog Entries: 7	Welcome to the Forum Keep experimenting with a little finger when your not on your periods obviously, you have to be moist inside and maybe when you get your period, there's not much flow and therefore, it hurts because your dry inside.. You can try a little lube on the tampon and see if that helps you get it in as well. Some women are very tight until they have sex, this seriously isn't un-common at all, all you can do is take your time, use a little lube and start from there sweet. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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11-03-2009, 07:59 PM	#3
laswell89 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Thank you for the reply, it was helpful! I've been told it hurts and you bleed the first time you have sex if your hymen isn't broken. Is this true? I'm nervous about the pain. And how much do you actually bleed when it breaks?

11-03-2009, 10:49 PM	#4
echoskybound VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Baltimore Posts: 90	Please see a doctor before trying sex or tampons. I'm a little nervous about this subject because I had a very terrible experience with my hymen. The first time I used a tampon it went in fine, but when it became saturated and expanded, it wouldn't come out. After painfully tugging at it desperately, I looked in a mirror and saw a band of flesh stretched across my vagina holding the tampon in - it was my hymen, which was apparently deformed and had a septum shape instead of the normal flap of skin. It was extremely thick, so I couldn't tear it, and went right across the center of the opening, making it impossible to get the tampon out. I had to have the hymen surgically removed. Even after having it removed, I still bleed sometimes during sex from minor tearing. Some people are just tight and it takes a while to loosen the skin around the area. I never sued tampons again until after having sex because I was still afraid of them. Sex doesn't all have to be done at once... take it slowly, go a little bit farther at a time. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I don't have sex for a long time, he can only get it in a little bit before it hurts to much and we have to try again the next day. It's a bit of a pain, but not horrible.

11-04-2009, 03:54 PM	#5
laswell89 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Thank you for your reply. I am not sure that I have the septum shape you are referring to... I can't see any "band" across the center, just a general skin type thing that seems to cover most of the opening. Surgically removed? That doesn't sound good. What you said about sex does make me feel better though... I will definitely have my boyfriend take it slow at first. I'm hoping it doesn't hurt too much!

11-08-2009, 01:04 AM	#6
echoskybound VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Baltimore Posts: 90	I hope my resposne wasn't scary or anything... lol. I think my case is rare and I doubt women need to have their hymens surgically removed very often. Apparently there are rare cases of multiple holes in the hymen, or no opening at all. Yours sounds like the normal shape, just a little bit bigger. Tampons hurt for a lot of people - it helps a lot to put some lubricant on yourself and the tampon first, and it has to go in at the right angle. Sometimes it still hurts a lot for me if I'm not doing it right. If you can get it in an inch, that means it's getting through your hymen - however, it may hurt coming back out since it expands. But you can get slender ones that should be easier.