It does sound psychological as you can have sex if you're in the mood. I think getting some couselling of some description would help you to get past this tensing up at other times.
I'm 27 and I have a dreaded fear of papsmear test. I have had two done when I was 22 and had such a traumatic experiences for both I've never had one since. Basically the first pap there was blood and the test came back inconsistent. So I had to go back again and the doctor said because it was so traumatic for me to come back in six months. I did this, took a valium before I went in and still found the whole experience excruciating and traumatic. The test came back clear. Basically I just wonder if there are any other women out there who have unrealistic fears of pap smears and/or their vaginas? I have never been able to use a tampon either, and initially sex can be painful but once I'm in the mood its all good. Do you think I should see a psychologist about this fear? I was raised by my grandma who was very old fashioned and viewed sex/periods etc as 'taboo' so I'm thinking this could be part of the reason, and I think maybe I have a 'tight' vagina also.... I know how important it is to have a papsmear and I want to get it done but the thought sends me running![]()
It does sound psychological as you can have sex if you're in the mood. I think getting some couselling of some description would help you to get past this tensing up at other times.
I'm just not sure what kind of counselor to see, do people specialise in this kind of thing??
Maybe a body and mind counsellor of some sort. Its very plausible that your upbringing could have caused you some problems. Maybe even subconsiously.
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