Cannot find my urethra!

**foner5000** · 11-04-2010 02:37 PM

I am 20 years old and still a virgin. My boyfriend and I are trying to have sex but it it too painful since I am too tight at the moment. After penetration (fingering usually) it burns a lot when I pee and is very uncomfortable for a while afterwards. Today I was checking myself out in the mirror and I cannot find my urethra! In fact I could only find one hole... I managed to push a little urine out while I was looking at myself and it seemed to come from my vagina. Is it possible that my urethra is inside my vagina or that I am actually penetrating my urethra instead of my vagina?

**WildChild** · 11-04-2010 02:52 PM

Rather unlikely but I have heard stories of it happening.
To find your vagina try working your way up from your anus. That is very identifiable. Moving toward the front you will cross your pernium (you can find a nice diagram on line and use a mirror and your fingers) Then you should slide right into your vagina. You vagina does produce it's own lubrication and fluids to clean herself. Your urethra is much much smaller and above your vagina and your clitorous above that.

**Katie35801** · 11-04-2010 05:57 PM

I am 32, with 5 kids, and I still have a hard time finding mine! Some are tiny I guess. One way to check is to put a tampon in your vagina before you pee, if it is soaked in urine.....I guess you have your answer!
But Im betting, because you are so young and "tight", it is just tiny.

**Wolfendreamer** · 08-10-2011 03:29 AM

Im 18 and I had abit of the same problem I can't find mine and when I look it looks as if it is coming from vagina aswell, and for awhile I was wondering if it was normal. And also wondering if it is in the vagina would it make giving birth hard or not

**WomensHealthFan** · 09-12-2011 04:45 PM

It can look like you are peeing out of your vagina, but don't worry you probably are not. The urethra can be difficult to find, but it is there. You both sound perfectly normal, but if you still have concerns see a gynecologist or better yet a urologist who can explain to you the structure and even do an exam if you would like to confirm. If you do not feel comfortable having an exam, maybe just speaking to them will help ease your mind. I have a picture here that might help diagram it better than any words could do: *no links*