Thread: Small Opening?

There's never such a word as small.. because in later life you could give birth and your vagina can extend a great amount.

I think the thing you have to do with tests with doctors is just to relax and it wouldn't hurt so much. Same with tampons; just relax and obviously sex, just relax.

everyone is right about it not being a big deal. i'm a petite lady myself and had a very painful first pelvic exam also, but i lived to tell the tale, have sex, and now the exams don't really hurt at all. my ob/gyn kept telling me to "relax" at the time (though not being very gentle eventually got in there anyway), but i really did not know how to relax. you probably would do well to read a little bit about vaginismus, but whether it's officially diagnosed or not, there are some exercises you can do that happen to be the very same exercises people do when their vagina feels too large (like after childbirth). it's all about getting control over your pelvic floor muscles. they are called KEGELS (named after a doctor) and i'm sure you can research them on the web. one key thing to remember is that "relax" in this case is not the same as doing nothing. the natural state of your vagina is for your muscles to be slightly flexed because you don't want to let just anything in there. with kegels, you will learn to flex AND relax, and the relaxing part will actually feel like pushing out. anyway, as everyone has said, if you don't get it right away, don't stress. chill out and try again next year.

Ladies, I have read several questions and answers about "small openings". If you are having painful intercourse it could be due to the opening size or it could be a number of other issues as well including vaginismus (muscle spasms), vulvular vestibulitis (inflammation of the vestibule of the vagina), psychological, etc... The best thing to do is to see a pelvic pain specialist (not just your regular OB/GYN) and be properly diagnosed. Believe it or not, physical therapy can be very effective in treating these problems. Once diagnosed, you can use dilators, manual stretching, relaxation, and other things to overcome the problem. It may sound "creepy" but it is a small price to pay to have a normal sex life.