I am in the same boat. I have been dealing with this for many years and unfortunately as time passes it is only getting worse. I hope that some miracle solution will be found some day to hep all the women who are in this embarrassing situation.
Unfortunately I haven't found the perfect hair removal method,either. I also use make up trying to cover up the effects of plucking and shaving but just like you I know that it's still obvious. Nobody has commented on it but I don't think that nobody has noticed it.
I have read online that drinking two cups of spearmint tea daily might help with facial hair because it lowers testosterone levels. I started to drink it and keep my fingers crossed that it will help to slow down the growth a bit. I'm not very optimistic,though.