Hi All. I just separated from my husband a few days ago. He is usually the most childist, semi-violent guy I know. When I first told him that I know longer loved him, he was thankful that I was honest and he was willing to do anything to remain as peaceful as possible for our 2 boys. Now, he has been calling me, emailing me, telling me that I ruined him, tellling me that nobody else cares for me like him. He is even saying horrible things about my sister because he hates that we are friends. Has anybody ever gone thru this? If so, do you have any ideas of what I can say/do to make this stop. I was not going to go thru with the Divorce right away due to the money issues. But now I"m thinking that I should. Any answers will be appreciated.
Thanks girls!

Hmm, that sounds like my husband...childish and semi-violent...christ, even this morning I woke up to him flipping out on me on how he couldn't find the towels.
That's why I am here.
Get out of this guy's path of destruction. Men who are this way are this way because they are extreeeeemely self-insecure. And the funny thing is, they know this and try to hide it by playing that, 'fine bi-etch, leave i don't care...i will not beg a woman to stay.'
Then once they stew for a few days, their inner demons grab hold of them and they get scared...that's when the harassing and the 'no one else will want you' **** comes in. they don't know how to handle any kind of situation in an adultlike, respectful manner and use the same tactics they played that chased you off in the first place, to get you to come back to them? but remember, he doesn't want you back because he loves you or misses you, he wants you back because he needs to feel like HE WON, and that he needs his caretaker to continue, well, taking care of him because he knows he cannot mentally do it on his own.
Gee, how you sound like me...you know something, I went and got blank no-contest divorce papers the other day swearing I have had enough and they have been sitting on my desk ever since then just staring at me...one day I will fill them out, the next, 'oh i forgive him'. screw it, I am filling them out!

this sounds very familiar,im only sad tht this is an issue women are faced with.in my situation i didnt see it untill after we were married with a child.we still are!i hope the best for you two.i keep thinking my situation is fixable.im not allowed to go to certain gas stations....there are indefinant insecurities,even his mom knows about them.i just wonder what she thinks.does she think i will put up with this forever?its sad because i love her to death,she has helped me out in many ways and shown me more love and support then my own mother or even husbad for that matter.