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Junior Member
Can it get worse?
I'll try to keep this short. My DH and I have been married 21 yrs. It's been pretty crappy for that last 10 unfortunately.
About 6 yrs ago he took on the care of his elderly great uncle and in return he would be left his estate. Large sum of money, house,bonds etc...he told me and everyone around him that he is doing it in hopes to give us a better life later.
The old man passed away last year and about 2 weeks after he died he went on a spending spree. Denied it was estate money (it was about 9k in cash).
He has also bought 2 harleys and a new truck....on credit. Dragging my name into the debt because we are married.
He is keeping every aspect of the inheritence a secret from me. He opened a po box that I'm not supposed to know about and has a safe deposit box at the bank.
My daughter is telling me all this.
He is treating me like the enemy hiding it all from me. (so much for bettering "OUR" life. He meant "HIS")
And when I thought it couldn't get worse, I find out he has made his will... and I'm not in it.
I don't know why he hates me so and he won't file for divorce. He wants to keep using me as his maid I guess?
I don't have the money for an attorney fee to file, so I'm letting him spend as much as he will into the marriage so it's better for me in the event of a divorce later. I'm not entitled to any of his inheritence by law. Not a dime. so I'm basically ruined.
What would you do?
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WH Head Moderator
One of my sisters went through something like this. Talk to an attorney. Get out the phone book, a lot of them offer a free consultation - usually up to an hour. Try to put together a clear statement of what is going on, don't leave things out and a list of what you want to know. You might want to talk to one to get a general feel for your situation, then think over what they've said and talk to another to get answers to new questions. At some point you will probably have to hire one.
Depending on where you live, you may not be a party to his debt. Credit isn't automatically combined like it used to be, at least not in the US. Did you sign on loans for things like the motorcycles and truck? He cannot put your name on the debt, you would have had to sign the loan docs. My ex did this, twice during out marriage - bought vehicles (3x if you count the big tractor) in his name only. Then we ended up rolling them into the home equity, so then they became my debt too.
The uncle's will has to have been probated and is in the public records of the court. You can go down there and see what's in it. How do you know that the wording would specifially exclude you? It may not, you should find out.
Basically you can't afford not to get legal advice, you can get some for free so start there.
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