Thread: Caught my fiance in the act...

I believe the key here is communication... If your curious as to what his intentions were with the porn, just ask. Most likely, your reading way to much into it... which is something all of us women seem to do! Don' t make him feel bad though for watching it, that will just make him "shut down" and thats not good, especially considering the situation with his ankle and money right now. There's a ton of reasons sex slows down in relationships, and probably the most likely reason, is stress. Sex is ALWAYS the first to go when things aren't going well in life. But if you are really feeling that insecure, just try talking with him. Ask him if your the reason his libido has taken a dive....your answer will most likely be no. From what you said, your relationship seems to have been quite healthy until recently... so just relax. Show him you still desire him, and open the communication gap. Thats my advice. I hope it works out for you.
p.s. occassionally watching porn is not a big deal... alot of women are just insecure with themselves and thats why they have a problem with it. (in my opinion!!) And masturbating is completely normal and healthy (in my opinion) And I am not talking about addicts either, I am referring to the general population.

just because the roler coaster is not working does not mean the other rides are off limits.