Thread: who hates the past

I've hated my past before but it's what made you who you are and got you where you are today. The difficulties should have also been learning experiences and the frustrations should make you more sensitive to other's situations. We all make mistakes, misjudgements, misconsiderations, you have to learn what you can from them and move on. Anything else will simply cause you to get stuck in the past and who wants that?

Look at your past with the eye of love and tollerance. You did what you did at the time for a reason, maybe it wasn't well considered but at the time it seemed like what needed to be done. Look for patterns of behavior, are there things you can change if you are aware of them? Better choices you can make if a similar situation comes up?

I'm sure when you married, you were loving and looking forward to the future. I certainly was, I was crazy about my husband when we married and stayed that way probably longer than I should have, given how I was treated but you do what seems best at the time. Some where along the line it became apparent that it wasn't working. Then you do what you have to do to keep your sense of self. In some ways we expect more from our relationships than women did in the past. We are willing to tollerate less neglect and abuse, less willing to be sexually and emotionally unsatisfied. We also have less connection to other women and expect our men to fill that gap and most aren't well suited to it. They may be good men but make lousy gf substitutes. Stay positively connected to other women.

Glenda this isn't too clear, you're married 3-1/2 years, he had an online relationship? You and he may be giving the gaming too much sense of reality. Is he addicted?