Thread: heartbroken

I know how you feel. Exactly one month ago. My husband of two years and boyfriend of 15 years told me over the phone that he was going to divorce me. Two weeks after that he filed for divorce and three days after that he gave a 30 day notice to the home that we were leasing. Haven's seen him since. he refuses to see me, talk to me, or even hear from me, and it hurts really hurts. Because like you I have supported him through out our relationship and I feel betrayed. As of now I still wake up in the middle of the night In Shock and thinking about him, where he is at, who he is with, why he was able to let go so easy. I often feel myself so alone and feeling unworthy of anything. It still hurts bad and yes people do say that things get better but at the moment you dont think about that you just yearn to be around him, see him, and hear his voice. You will have your good days where you think okay I can do it and then your bad days where you feel like your whole world is falling apart. People often say well now you have time for yourself and you will think well I don't want time for myself. You need to think ahead and plan what you are going to do. I know it is hard because you are caught up in so much pain but little by little it will get better. It is going to be hard to forget the memories that you have had with him but just think about the new memories that you want to make in the future. I am 34 years old and I also feel like you, be strong, talk to anyone that you can. They will be there for you like they are there for me. You will even meet new people without you even looking for it. Since my seperation I have gotten close to all of my friends and to new people that I would never have imagined with be there for me. At the beginning I relied on this site. I still look forward to this site as you will get so many people supporting you and encouraging you.

Geo,

Money is a hard issue for all couples. Its even harder when one lies and hides money issues. Couples should have to go to money couselling in my opionion cause everyone has different habits.

You are not unworthy of love. We are all worthy of love. You are 33 you will find love again that is not old and all is not lost. This must be a big shock to what you were expecting to happen in your life.

I don't think you need to feel bad if the money issues turned you into a angry person. You had every right to be angry if this was putting financial pressure on you that you could not handle. It is hard when one person in the couple is forcing the other to be the responsible money manager while they get to spend like there is no tomorrow and be irresponsible. Its really not fair.

I know your heart hurts but you must take a sober look at this situation. What was the real deal if he can throw all this away at the first hardship of money. You deserve someone who is going to stand beside you not run away.

take this time to heal your heart. You are worth it

xx

you are a wonderful person and worthy of someone who treats you properly.

money issues are a killer. if the couple doesnt agree generally on how to handle money, it will bleed over into everything else. get out sooner rather than later if you are so inclined.

I cried when I read your replies....He has been in touch with me and in the e-mail he talks of other things he thought I should return. I guess he means the engagement ring...god it hurts so much is this what it has to come down to? I am folded up in side and I go to work with this ache and pain ...when I take a breath I can feel my heart hurting. Its every where I go....like a black hole... He wants to meet up to discuss the smaller details .....I couldnt after the way he treated me last week. I think he enjoys seeing me in pain and I had to think of my health as I know Im not strong enough to see him....I would cry...I think the worst thing is knowing he does not love me as you dont treat people you love like this. He does not hurt the way I do and I often wonder how he came to hate me so much. Am scared of loving anyone when feelings can change so quickly...It was only a month ago he said to me I cant wait until you are mrs................. I often wonder if I am being punished in life as that is how it feels. The pain is so bad and i dont think I could go through this anymore. I so wanted children and feel my last chance has gone with a man I really love.