Thread: Falling apart

Abusive partners, be they men or women, have distorted views not only of reality but of themselves. Please seek legal counsel about this. You have rights to your unborn child along with the right NOT to have to live with abuse.

I'm sorry you're STILL going through this. I feel sorry for your unborn baby. You NEED to get her help. I think another way you can probably approach this is by giving her an ultimatum. I know its probably not the best thing, but its the only thing you have got over her. If she doesn't seek help or clean up her act you need to do something drastic. Maybe if you spent a night somewhere else where you left her alone for a week. Then maybe she would get the hint that you are serious. No more catering to her needs. You have to think of your own as well. This CAN'T be healthy.

And I do agree on getting some records of her being irrational and violent. You need that just in case you wind up in court for custody.

Well, we have a counseling appointment in 2 weeks... apparently that was the closest available time from our health insurer. She's willing to go, even says that she wants to go, but it's so far away. Every day is so long for her and me. Some days she's absolutely fine, and she's excitedly preparing to bake a cake for me on Valentines Day. Other days her memories come back and she's depressed and moping (fortunately no physical violence anymore). Our next prenatal exam is tomorrow at the hospital, but they aren't psychologists or counselors.

Any advice for how to boost her self-esteem in the short-range? She's at the point where she thinks she's not attractive to me, and doesn't want to show her face to me.

well send her flowers telling her how much u love her and would not chenge her for nobody else.or sing her a song from ur own words,plan a romantic dinner.ect...