Thread: I AM a coward.

I want to smack you but your too far away.

You are NOT stupid.

You are NOT a coward.

Why would you think that? Because you have been expressing your feelings and feeling better about venting and then he read it and now you feel bad.

Why did he read it? Did you show him? Or did he snoop? Why did he snoop? If that be the case?

Honey, you know if there is a problem, any problem within a relationship you are meant to communicate and you are meant to make an "effort" to change those things that aren't working. You are NOT meant to "satisfy" the problem ONCE short term and then put the person through the same thing over and over again.

But!!! He may be frustrated that you are after sex, nothing more.. You have a hidden agenda? You want to experience an Orgasm yes? And as such, you want sex, sex, sex. It doesn't work that way.

You can't make all the demands, you can't ask for it all your way, but you both need to compromise and he needs to realise that it CAN NOT be a quick fix.. But, you can not expect him to "give it to you" the orgasm, you have to find you.

A proper relationship needs "soooo much work".. You love him more than sex? It is not the be all and end all sweet... But you can change this if you think outside the square, if you realise that everything in life is a two way street.

This is why I don't want you to think that you are stupid or a coward.

Now the coward bit?

Your contradicting yourself because you are basically saying your a coward for not leaving.

But, you are also saying you never had an orgasm before him but "expect" to have one because your in love? Because your married?

You obviously love sex, but orgasms are based on comfort-ability with yourself first and then your partner second.

I would guess that you haven't even gotten to know your own body yet and therefore, you are "expecting" him to give it to you and therefore, you are wanting sex all the time so you can finally say, I've had one?

See the problem?

It's with yourself sweet. You don't know how to experience this..

So, you need to look at this differently, you don't have to strip and be ignored, or ask for sex daily or want , want from him, he's probably a bit disillusioned himself, you need to find you... And, in doing so, he will see the difference from sex, to intimacy instead of trying so hard and maybe he will like it even more, to experience it.


Start experimenting with yourself and finding your own sexuality with that you will find all sorts of things you are capable of..

Don't expect a man to give it to you... It can happen, they can be exceptional lovers, but you can also be an exception lover from finding you..

And, then you both become one and you both become understanding each other's bodies and therefore, you both know what each other likes, explore.

Start with yourself, find what you like , truly like it's amazing when you do, I can't state that more than I have and I wish sometimes I don't post this stuff, but sometimes, someone says something in non understanding and so i feel that i need to share.

Find you, and then let him find you.

Sex IS Sex.....

CW