Thread: Do all men do it?

I'd ask him if he could just relax and let you explore different techniques on him, for him to stay quiet when its just okay and to moan or say words of encouragement when you are doing something he likes. This way you can feel around and find what pleases him without feeling like you are some waitress and hes a jerky customer barking orders.

If he has really specific needs ask him to talk to you about those on a quiet night where the act isn't going on, ask him if you can watch him masturbate ask him to guide your hand while showing you so that you can understand those needs a little better.

Tell him the way he acts makes you feel like like what you are trying to do (pleasure him) isn't even appreciated. Most women have felt the frustration of a man that just cant seem to find the spots, or he does and just skips over them and your thinkin 'hey wait go back, stay put' hehe. But usually so happy hes making an effort that just let it go and hope for the best it gets better.

Many men come on here and complain their wife wont go anywhere near their penis with their mouth and I am sure they would love to have the complaint of an eager lover trying to learn how to please them so much they wouldn't dream of being as ungrateful as your SO.

I'd have that little talk with him, in a non confrontational way. Make sure to make it more about how it makes you feel when he does it than what a donkey's derrier he is for doing it in the first place.

If he acts aloof or like its no big deal I'd put him on blow job restriction til he gets some manners :-)

Forgot to add that no it is not normal behavior. Not only is it mean its not very bright as he's likely to turn you off doing them alltogether , very counterproductive behavior if you ask me. I've never, nor never heard a friend say that they get lectured during blow jobs. Its Weird, unless its part of a domination thing he's enjoying , if that is the case he should clue you in on that.

If U don't mine me chiming in, when ever I've received head I never once recall complaining what I didn't like, if anything I would suggest what I liked the best out of what she might be doing at the time. Like
"yes baby that feels good right there" something of that nature.

I have had a woman go down on me tho that just went nuts and it was like she was out of control, with no, uh, kind of a pattern to it! I can imagine with some guys this may seem a bit irritating and frustrating. So I guess what I'm asking, do you feel like you may have been this way?

God, just dump the looser!!!

Sorry, but my wife won't do this at all (well, 3 times in 20 years), and I would absolutely love it if she did (she knows this but doesn't care).

Doesn't he realize how lucky he is to have a passionate spouse who is willing to do all sorts of things for him. This sounds like Bill Gates complaining about how expensive everything is.

You deserve so much better than that.

rcoreyus, each time you mention your wife you seem to get a little more bitter.... So, I'm guessing things are all still the same? Not tempted to cheat on her yet?

My bitterness comes and goes. I'm often tempted to cheat, but I don't think I ever will. (matter of pride more than anything else). But - in addition to being bitter about our sex life, I also love her. Sounds corny, but all it takes to put me in a good mood is for her to be happy. Other than our sex life things are very good.

I responded pretty strongly to Elsa-niloo because her situation sounds so familiar to me (except that her husband sounds far worse in other ways than my wife is). Maybe I'm trying to give advice to my past self.

ok, elsa for the guy to be ungrateful like that is kind of a turn off. i mean if he's bossing you around its not fun. but if he gives kind gentle words then imo its not a big deal. lol. next time he says that you should just stop completely OR ...you can boss him around when he does it to you :P

my bf doesn't say much as far as "orders" go. i ask him why he doesn't. he just says he's enjoying the moment.