Thread: my husbands porn addiction

Tread lightly and try to not make a huge issue of it, I almost think the less you care about it.. the less they care about it. It might be a passing interest, one guys develop early on and usually carry in some capacity all their lives. As long as it isn't interferring in your sex life as in he is not satisfying you and spending all of his sexual energy on porn. When a man is in a committed relationship and can get sex whenever they want I often think they use porn out of sheer lazyness sometimes.

Sometimes they like to eat at a fancy restaraunt and order a steak and desert and its the best meal.. but it takes longer to get, costs more , etc etc.. and porn is kinda like the drive thru of sex, something to help them gratify themselves quickly with and dont even have to take their pants from around their ankles!

Of course if they ONLY want fast food... that is very inconsiderate to your feelings and need for closeness. So try to evaluate if he is carrying his fair share in meeting your needs. If he is, and he isn't going all nutso on the porn - eh, you have to pick your battles.

From the posts I've read on here, most men will react like children getting their favorite toy taken away and its an uphill battle that your likely to lose, or think you win because he just turns to hiding this interest... thus making it more interesting than it even was to begin with. Most towns have porn arcades and viewing booths and he's a grown man and will do what he feels is okay.

Porn can hurt a woman's feelings sometimes, it can. I know women can like it too, I do sometimes. But it does have a way of making you feel not sexually attractive enough for your partner, and even if thats not the case sometimes it just feels that way... for a lot of women. But everything is hinging on your perspective you can make his viewing it be as degrading and hurtful and mean to you as you want to think of it... or you can choose to shrug it off, know that its just a guy thing and not let it get it to you.

If you do want to talk to him about it, like I said tread lightly and discuss how it makes you feel in general give him the opportunity to put your mind at ease. I'd avoid requesting him to stop and instead let him decide how he wants to handle this hobby that hurts you and see if its something you are okay with.