Oh my it sounds like there is so much going on with your life right now. Between your husband being laid off, splitting up for a little while and then getting back together and then with your husband taking his family over you and your daughter it seems as well. I would say try to work things out, have you talked to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel? I would also see if he would want to go to counseling. You can make it work its just a matter of making him realize just what he is doing. I am sure that he probably does know that its hurting you, but as far as fixing it he may not know how. As for the family blaming you for things, its not their place to do so. What is going on between you and your husband is none of their business as far as I would be concerned. I am surprised that you have stuck it out this long, I would have tried to work things out but if it had stayed like this I probably would have left so kudos to you. I wish you best of luck. I hope that things can work out.