I also just wanted to add that if you feel that you would be unable to resist his crying and pleading after you leaving him for good, then you might consider cutting off all communication with him immediately after leaving. I had to do this with my ex, who seems similar to your husband in that he had a lot of his own issues and needed counseling and frankly needed to grow up quite a bit before he was ready to handle a real relationship. He also would promise to change and beg me to come back, only to revert back to his old ways after only a week or so. I finally had it and left for good, which was very difficult but made easier thanks to the support of my family. They advised me to cut off communication with him because they knew that I would feel bad and I wouldn't want him to have a broken heart and be alone and sad, blah blah... I would willingly sacrifice myself so that he wouldn't feel unhappy. They moved me out of our apartment when he was gone. They had me change my phone number. I didn't inform him where I moved. He didn't know my schedule. Any emails he sent me, my dad instructed me to just forward them right along to him and he would let me know if there was anything important for me to know. Now that may sound instrusive to some, but I needed that. I wouldn't have been able to read him pouring out his heart to me or begging me to come back. I wouldn't have been able to stick it out and stay strong and do the right thing for both of us if I hadn't just stopped communicating with him. So, you may consider that option.