My ex-boyfriend, Eric, and I dated for four months. It was only four months but i had fallen in love, and we were talking marraige. Then we got into this really arre arguement and broke things off.

A quick synopsis of overall arguement. His mother and step father got into an arguement, and his mother called him to come "help" her, because she was upset. This upset him and basically i got blamed for his parents fight because i took my vacation time from work on a week oposite to when he got paid. I snapped back that it wasn't fair to blame me and he called me a *****. He is in the navy and was on leave during this time. Told me he was going to report back early instead of joining me when i went home to visit my family (when he would have met them). He called the next day to appologize and got upset cause i went home without taking him. We got snippy with each other (don't remember what was said) and broke up.

He asked me to forgive him to give him a second chance and i refused. I tried to date other people, but nothing has worked out my heart hasn't been in it.

He's been asking me again to give him a second chance.

Was it stupid to end things so quickly? Should i give it another shot? i know in the end it comes down to what i think is best, but i would really appreciate the opinions of others. And outsider doesn't have the emotional weight added to their opinions as I do.

The argument, as you posted, makes no sense.
It seems to be one of something getting out of
control, for 'no reason'.

Now you can try again, because this time, I'm
sure you'll find out what the 'reason' is why he
can go off into anger and insanity for 'no reason'.

He sounds like a proto-abuser.

Proto-abusers are those who tip their hand too
early, and have to fight like to get the 'victim'
back into the cave.

Men with anger problems marry their victims.

I think it is deserving of another chance. I agree that it is hard to understand the argument as you described it. But you should keep in mind that their could have been other things involved to make him snap. If he is in the Navy, I am sure that leaves him with a lot of additional stress. Not to say that it's ok for him to flip out, but maybe it was just a chance circumstance. I mean, we all flip out from time to time. If this is the first time something like this happened, give it one more shot. Just keep a watchful eye to make sure he is not one to habitually over react. If that is the case and he does have anger issues, then you should move on.

I think that if you guys have a good relationship and he treats you good and you are happy when you are with him then you should give him a second chance since he has apologized and your heart seems to still be with him. Hope everything works out for you.

If he makes you happy then give him another chance. Not just because you want him back but if you give it another chance and it doesn't work out, atleast this time you will know that you tried, you gave it your all and you figured him out. You know? I will tell you one thing though, my husband is in the military and my ex huband was in active duty. The active duty versus the reserve. Hmm. The active duty was very hostile and would over react. But then again when I was in the army (active) you get stressed easily and you have someone else controlling your life. If he starts showing signs of stress and you know it might be job realted tell him leave the Navy at home when you talk to me. Its hard being with someone in the military. Just remember if this works out, you got a long road ahead of you (BUT IT'S A BEAUTIFUL ROAD). Good luck sweetheart and I hope you are happy!