Thread: My husband drinks and is depressed...

I know this must be such a hard time for you. Your husband is probably hving a hard time adjusting to becoming a father. This is a time in life that is very hard for men. Sometimes life changes can trigger depression in people. It seems like he is self medicating with the alcohol. Many people do this, because they don't know how to make themselves feel better.
You could try to gently tell him that you are concerned because he is not acting the way he usually does. You want to make this about your concern for him...because you love him. Don't make this about you.....say things like
" I'm concerned because you are drinking more than you used to...are you feeling ok? Is there some things you are worried or concerned about?"
He may not respond the way you want him to at first...but give him a chance to think about what you have said. Don't force him to answer you either. This is ultimately his problem and you should be there for support but don't feel like you can change him. He has to make that decision on his own.
Remind him everyday why you love him, and remind him of all the great things he has done....he may not say it...but he needs to hear these things right now
I'm not an expert but I do work as a nurse at a psych hospital on the unit the specializes in detox, and these are some techniques that we use at my work...I hope it helps, and remember to take care of yourself during this time