Thread: Husband fantasizing about old flings???

I bet a lot of men do this but don't have the nerve to share it. I am sure my boyfriend does it, but I think he'd know better than to tell me something like that lol. I think openness and honesty is what a relationship is based on, do they need to let us know things that hurt us for no reason ? Eh.

Oh goodness, I do suppose you are right Rcoreyus, you got to commend the man on his BRUTAL honesty.. but I also agree with you that it was a stupid stupid stupid thing to do. No different than telling a lady at a bus stop that is minding her business and eating a donut "wow now I see why you are so fat" or "Hey is that a new wrinkle I notice, dear? Disgusting!" Openess and honesty is great, but that is just an overshare, almost like he is trying to hurt you.

My boyfriend looks at porn, naked women mostly. I know he likes naked women. When we see a pretty girl in public I always wonder if he's imagining her naked, I am sure he does quite a lot of the time if not ALL the time lol.. if he was to confirm that to me, I would freak out, even though I KNOW its likely happening , there is a certain amount of respect we give the ones we care about , enough to not hurt them where no possible good can come from it, and no lies or deviousness is accomplished during the act.

Having an affair , while it might hurt to be told, should be told as things like that , std's etc.. its just a need to know thing. Fantasies.. unless you are asking someone to be a part of them, or wanting to hear theirs, etc.. something of that sort just don't need to go there.

I recently stumbled upon my boyfriends porn stash and wish I hadn't. Not that I didn't know he looked at it, but to actually see the women that fuel him when I don't... thats something that stuck in my brain. When I see girls that look like the ones in the pictures and we are together my stomach goes into nots and insecurity and anger blazes within my body. But I deal. If he was to actually say the words.. wow I just imagined her naked I would think he was cruel on top of being a jerk and I would be out of there.