Thread: I need to get this off my chest

You both work, you both have to deal with stress within that work, and probably finance like everyone else, regardless of what you earn, you have debts.

Most wives spit because she works as well as him and he does nothing at all around the house, your husband cooks and helps out.. Don't call him names, that's the first thing that you have to work on, never saying anything that if that person was to die tomorrow you wish you could take back.... Learn to curve your temper in this regard.

You know if he was to move out you would miss him more than terribly. What you need is 1) time out for yourself, no housework, no cooking, no stress, no pressure, so if this means joining a gym, a club, an art class, something that gives you me time go and do it. 2) you need to get out those photos from your wedding, and from before, and during and sit with a glass of wine/beer together and look at them.. Remember, the fun and what it was about? And, why you had so much fun...

With regards to your sex life... It seems that people get the opinion that it's just that sex.. And, so one partner doesn't want it.. Or one partner likes sex more than the other somewhere down the track.. But it's not sex, it's intimacy or can be.. Sensual, sexual or plain horny. The funny thing is the more you have the more you actually like the release it gives you, actually assists in de-stressing and the more you want it.. It's when you don't do it that you don't need it and therefore, don't want it.

Do you really know all about your body? Wouldn't you love to be touched ( not there) but just touched, in such a loving way that you felt sexy and pretty?

This starts with you.. Experiement, start reading books.

Most will say get help via councelling, sex therapists, all sorts...

And, that may be the case.

But have a think about a few of these things, and see if you can change your patterns and both of your lives a little first, and sit and look at those old photos and smile and laugh together...

Your husband is trying...

Your husband must think your sexy to want sex from you all the time....

Your husband must love you...

If you can jump some of these, then go away for a weekend and enjoy all aspects of it, friendship, relationship, love and intimacy.

CW