Thread: Huband still in touch with his ex and lied about it......

Hello to all. I will try to keep this short and detailed. I just found out that my husband of less than a year has been keeping in touch with his ex. He has lied to me over and over. Right now we are seperated because of all the lies he has fed me. I will explain..

6 months ago, my husband was on the computer looking thru his email. I was folding clothes and putting them away. I passed him and saw on the screen a picture of a girl holding a cute baby girl. I smiled and went up to him. He got starled. I asked him " Who's that cute baby?" He answered " Oh that's my friend's niece. Her name is AVA." ( KEEP THIS NAME MEMORIZED YOU GUYS WILL SEE WHERE THIS NAME COMES TO PLAY)Then I said" oh friend you never told me about her." He replied " oh yes an old friend from college." I was like oh ok.

I have a photographic memory. Something told me to memorize the email name and I saw on the bottom of the page. Photobucket.com. I memorized it because he acted very strange when asked about the picture.

So the next day, I went to photobucket.com, type in the name of the person and BOOM, there was this person's album. I go thru it. Nice pics of her and her fam. Then all of a sudden there they were. Pictures of my husband kissing this person. Lots of pictures of them together. at a wedding. in Disney world. the picture dates 2006-07. I met him in 07. My heart sank. I couldn't believe what i was seeing.

I waited til he got home. I showed him the pictures. His eyes wide open. I just told him " Why couldn't say that she was your ex. or is she?" He told me that yes she was his ex. That he never told me about her because it was to embarrassing to talk about her. I didn't understand that and he wouldn't explain either. i told him you lied to me.

The following week I loose my cellphone and my husband puts me under his account. I was under another network. Since I got the phone my husband would constantly check who called me. who I called. Who I texted? My husband never puts the sound on his phone and everywhere he goes his cell goes with him. I asked him. What's going on why are you checking my phone like that. He couldn't answer. He just said. I have moments of doubt. I kept it to myself what i wanted to say to him.

I was waiting for something bigger. I knew something wasn't right. So i was saving evidence and just analyzing his behavior. That night I waited for him to fall asleep. I checked his phone for the 1st time. I see many texts that said from DAD. I knew of the back that him and his dad don't ever text each other, because his dad is old school and just calls. I start to read the texts and there were 2 texts. i see that he erases texts.

One of the texts said "Good night sweety" and the signature says "Ava;s number#1 auntie" remember when i said to keep this name. Then it clicked right away i knew it was his ex. Then the second text said " What no call today? you better call me."

I woke him up and everything came out of my mouth. That he was a lier. I asked how long was this going on, I asked how could he do this behing my back and continue his day like nothing was going on. No wonder he was checking my phone, because he was leing to me so he thought I was doing the same thing.

All he said was, I'm sorry He called me becaused he wanted to know. How I was doing. I told her I was married. I broke up with her and she doen't understand that. I don't talk to her everyday. I ignore her calls and text. Then he paused and couldn't continue talking. Then he kept telling me I love you. I married you and that's all that matters. I left it at that because deep down inside something said to me. just wait. more will come.

2 weeks ago my husband had a nervous breakdown. I took him to the emergency phsy room. He was checked in. he had to give me everything in his pockets phone and all before entering where he had to see the doctor. He gave me his bag with everything and he went in. I sat down to wait.

20 mintues past and his phone rings. a wierd number showed i picked up. I said " hello" then a girl on the other says " who's this.. where's so and so" I said " who's this" she says. this is his girlfriend. I said" well if your his girlfriend then I am his wife." She made a weird niose and hung up. Then she calls back saying " is this a joke, where's so and so"

to make this short and I do apologize for this long story. We just kept going back and forth. The girl didn't get it. She kept thinking it was all a joke. I waited for my husband to come out and waited to get home. Then I lashed out. i told him that she called. she says she's still your girlfriend. He broke down and said" let me tell you the truth. I said finally.

he said that he really never broke off the relationship. he just let it die on his own or so he thought. They had a long distance relationship. She visted him when he was down in florida. and that's were the pic were taken. So bascially he's playing games with her. He said to me to let him break it off his way. because she's crazy and doesn't get it. That he loves me. He;s crying telling all this. He has lied to me. He lied about her. he lied about who she was. and even in the beginning of our relationship he has lied that he did not have a relationship before me. I don't believe him. I don't know what to do.

I am in my mother's house now. and he's calling like crazy. crying over the phone that he wants to be with me. I said to him " break it off with her then look for me again. Was I right to say that. I need advice. I'm very confused. thank you all for your patience with this long story. I would apprecaite your advice.