Thread: he needs to show me love

I got that sense too, CW. When you said he was in the bathroom watching "younger women porn" I thought to myself... did he say specifically that, did the title say that .. or was it just general porn because, well porn tends to generally younger women, other than mature or milf'ish porn but the average porn is young women. So meaning, he didn't probably seek that out, its just what is there when you look for porn.

But of course if your feeling concerned about your age, it would be the first thing you think of... he's looking at her because she is younger - nah he's looking at her because she's naked :-) Unless of course he told you , or it was some hot 18 year olds website or something like that.

I am older than my boyfriend by just a couple years, and even I think and worry sometimes about him wanting a hot 21 year old over me. He's late 20's I am early 30's. But thing is, he picked me. We are both attracted to each other and age doesn't seem to make a difference. I think most women start to worry about their age at some point even if they are dating an older man, and you are going through that - but having a younger man is making you even more insecure about where you are at it seem.

You shouldn't be. Let me tell you what.... Go see the movie "the wrestler". Take a good long look at marissa tomei in that movie, naked. She is OVER 50 and her body is hotter than any young actress I have seen in a long time. Times they are changing. Women are paying more attention to their health and fitness and you can be hot, stay hot as long as you want to.

Don't let age make you feel like you are losing your attractiveness to your husband. Theres always going to be hot young things, hot older things, just hot things in general lol. What you should focus on is getting to the heart of why is distancing himself from you as far as cuddling and sex and things like that go.

Talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel inside without accusing. It might be that he doesn't even realize how this is affecting you and could make a change that will make you happy.

Your analogy of we like a car but sometimes we like a porsche was not at all comforting just so you know!! lol. That is kind of like saying that the women in porn are in some how higher quality.... when some of the women.. don't look a heck of a lot better than us, actually.

Take an actor that is married to a super model, and looks at porn still. He has a "porshe" at home, how does your analogy fit into that? I am guessing they just like a variety or porshes?

Your opinions are welcome and respected of course, but comparing the average woman to a car, and the ones that take her clothes off for cash as the porshe model.. won't end well :P haha ( tongue in cheek)

wew.. lol.. good points..